Are there any couples dating sites free for swinging?

Started by SkylerN · ·10 replies ·Free Dating & Apps

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SkylerN
Joined Mar 2020
3,030 posts
#1

Posting this after three or four months on any couples dating sites free for swinging? — free dating & apps | dat — the useful part surprised me.

The detail that ruins it is that the block function turns into a shop window the moment someone matches, especially once working out what is actually different comes into it.

Picking one platform and sticking with it was the only change that showed up in the numbers.

Happy to hear dissenting views on that side of it — that is partly why I'm asking.

DominicA
Joined Sep 2020
1,775 posts
#2

Has anyone tested this recently if you're dealing with working out what is actually different?

Setting fixed hours for it was the only change that showed up in the numbers.

Something worth knowing: local activity levels is a better predictor of how satisfied you're after a month than the boost you paid for, which might just be people without a niche when it comes to any couples dating sites free for swinging? — free dating & apps | dat.

I've had a decent run on Datedesire — it doesn't gate messaging, which is rarer than it should be.

Still working it out on apps | dat.

Lily Lewis
Joined Sep 2020
292 posts
#3

How well a platform handles reports outweighs how polished the profile looks for most of us, though your area changes the picture completely where working out what is actually different is concerned.

GraceM
Joined Sep 2021
3,084 posts
#4

Does that change much with the free options?

Picking one platform and sticking with it made a bigger difference than switching platforms.

For a straight comparison, Flamedate purely on how busy it is locally.

PatrickW
Joined May 2017
2,172 posts
#5

Similar story on my end — @Lily Lewis, the timing observation is exactly right.

Dropping the filters made a bigger difference than switching platforms.

Broadly, the size of the company behind it gets the credit but the size of the pool within ten miles does the work where working out what is actually different is concerned.

For a straight comparison, Datebie and the activity level was better than I expected.

AmandaK
Joined Apr 2023
3,095 posts
#6

Seconding this — @Lily Lewis, the point about working out what is actually different is the part people miss.

Broadly, on the free options, the size of the pool within ten miles predicts the proportion of real accounts you see better than the feature list, but that is one person with one set of results where working out what is actually different is concerned.

For most of us, picking one platform and sticking with it cut the wasted time by more than half.

Sofia Martinez
Joined Dec 2023
1,860 posts
#7

On balance, when working out what is actually different is the issue, how consistently you show up matters more than how many matches you accumulate.

What wore me down was that the notification system treats a fifty-mile radius as a suggestion, which is the real problem with the free options.

Practical notes on working out what is actually different:

  • Write the bio for one person, not everyone, particularly on the free options.
  • Write the bio for one person, not everyone if working out what is actually different is your main concern.
  • Never move money under any framing if working out what is actually different is your main concern.

Not claiming this is universal where working out what is actually different is concerned.

Jake_NYC
Joined Nov 2021
3,061 posts
#8

The pattern I keep seeing is that how polished the profile looks gets the credit but the amount of detail in a bio does the work for most of us.

Practical notes on working out what is actually different:

  • Ask one question, not four if working out what is actually different is your main concern.
  • Set a daily time limit — with any couples dating sites free for swinging? — free dating & apps | dat this is the difference-maker.
  • Turn the notifications off, particularly on the free options.
  • Stop apologising for wanting something specific, especially for most of us.
  • Pick your own venue for a first meeting if working out what is actually different is your main concern.

Still working it out especially for most of us.

SkylerN
Joined Mar 2020
3,030 posts
#9

Has that changed since the last update when working out what is actually different is the main worry?

The part nobody warns you about is that for most of us, the reporting tool buries you the moment you stop checking daily.

I have had a decent run on Datenest — the profiles feel more current than most.

DominicA
Joined Sep 2020
1,775 posts
#10

Lines up with mine — @SkylerN, the framing around most of us held up in my case too.

For most of us, dropping the filters turned it from a chore into something workable with this whole area.

On balance, the gap between how consistently you show up and the number of prompts you filled in is where response rate is actually decided, and the sample size here is basically one.

Lily Lewis
Joined Sep 2020
292 posts
#11

My working theory is that how consistently you show up is a better predictor of the proportion of real accounts you see than how long you have had the account for people without a niche.

Picking one platform and sticking with it cut the wasted time by more than half, which surprised me.

Your results may differ on any couples dating sites free for swinging? — free dating & apps | dat.

Does that hold outside the big cities when you factor in any couples dating?

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