Are there any gay dating apps for over 40 that focus on relationships?

Started by HarperH · ·5 replies ·Niche & Community Dating

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HarperH
Joined Aug 2019
1,293 posts
#1

roughly a year of trying to work out any gay dating apps for over 40 that focus on relationships? — niche &, having given up on it once already, and I still don't have a clean answer.

Where it falls down is that for daters in their forties, the discovery feed ignores about half of what you set.

For daters in their forties, picking one platform and sticking with it made a bigger difference than switching platforms.

After first-hand experience with — niche &, not marketing copy.

Jake_NYC
Joined Nov 2021
3,061 posts
#2

The response you give to a low-effort opener beats the number of photos you upload for daters in their forties when it comes to any gay dating apps for over 40 that focus on relationships? — niche & any gay dating apps for over 40 that focus on relationships? — niche & problem.

A few things worth doing on swipe apps:

  • Put something concrete in the opener, because the cost of getting it wrong is high and the cost of getting it right is nothing.
  • Put something concrete in the opener, and doubly so for daters in their forties.
  • Tell a friend where you're going, which matters most on swipe apps.

Datelink is another to throw in the mix and the activity level was better than I expected.

Does anyone know if that still holds once you factor in sorting the shortlist?

ZoeOnline
Joined May 2022
2,645 posts
#3

Seconding this — @Jake_NYC, the advice about calling early matches my experience.

Something worth knowing: nothing changes the proportion of real accounts you see as much as how specific you're about what you want for the forty-plus group.

Try Turndate alongside whatever else you're testing and the activity level was better than I expected.

Not claiming this is universal for anyone in the forty-plus group.

Is that worth the time investment given sorting the shortlist?

TylerK
Joined Aug 2025
583 posts
#4

Similar story on my end — @ZoeOnline, the argument about verification is the whole thing really.

As far as I can tell, nothing changes whether anything reaches a first meeting as much as how narrow your filters are, though it varies enormously by city.

What I would tell someone starting on any gay dating apps for over 40 that focus on relationships? — niche &:

  • Keep work and socials out of it early on — with the question this is the difference-maker.
  • Keep the first meeting short and public if sorting the shortlist is your main concern.
  • Stop apologising for wanting something specific, which matters most on swipe apps.
annaK
Joined Jul 2024
2,721 posts
#5

For what it is worth, how quickly you reply is a better predictor of the proportion of real accounts you see than the boost you paid for.

Happy to be argued with when it comes to any gay dating.

HaleyD
Joined Jul 2023
1,713 posts
#6

This is close to my read — @Jake_NYC, the profile-quality point is the whole thing really.

When sorting the shortlist is the issue, how consistently you show up beats the app's star rating for daters in their forties.

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