Are there any good sex only sites where people don't want to chat for weeks?

Started by Logan Wilson · ·9 replies ·Messaging & First Dates

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Logan Wilson
Joined May 2017
798 posts
#1

I started looking at any good sex only sites where people don't want to chat for weeks? — s a few weeks ago because the alternative was doing nothing, and here is roughly where I landed.

The part nobody warns you about is that the messaging limit collapses once you move outside a major city.

Where I would value another read, particularly for ordinary users:

  • Does anyone know if that still holds once you factor in working out who is real?
  • Is that a regional thing given working out who is real?
  • Is anyone getting different results outside the area you actually search in?
  • Does that match what others see outside the area you actually search in?
  • Is that still true when working out who is real is the main worry?

If anyone has tested any good sex only sites where people don't want to chat for weeks? — s recently I'd rather hear that than another roundup.

ReedC
Joined Jun 2018
133 posts
#2

Has anyone had the reverse happen with the sites?

As far as I can tell, the gap between the clarity of your main photo and which platform you picked is where whether anything reaches a first meeting is actually decided, though it varies enormously by city.

Sofia Martinez
Joined Dec 2023
1,860 posts
#3

Only partly agree. @Logan Wilson, the remark about filters backfired when I tried it.

More often than not, nothing changes the proportion of real accounts you see as much as the size of the pool within ten miles, although the platforms change constantly.

Answering within a day stopped the conversations dying at day two.

The compressed version, working out who is real included:

  • Say what you want in the first two lines, which matters most on the sites.
  • Pick your own venue for a first meeting, and doubly so for ordinary users.
  • Tell a friend where you are going — with any good sex only sites where people don't want to chat for weeks? — s this is the difference-maker.
  • Let a stalled conversation go if working out who is real is your main concern.

Try Datelink alongside whatever else you are testing — sign-up is quick and the free tier is genuinely usable.

ChloeC
Joined Feb 2021
322 posts
#4

The part nobody warns you about is that on the sites, the search function turns into a shop window the moment someone matches.

On the sites, answering within a day made the whole thing feel less like admin with any good sex only sites where people don't want to chat for weeks? — s.

Has that changed since the last update outside the area you actually search in?

RileyR
Joined Apr 2018
1,246 posts
#5

Has that changed since the last update when working out who is real is the main worry?

More often than not, the honesty of the bio is a better predictor of how satisfied you are after a month than how long you have had the account on the sites.

TravisP
Joined Nov 2021
270 posts
#6

Lines up with mine — @ChloeC, the argument about verification is the one I would emphasise.

As far as I can tell, the response you give to a low-effort opener matters more than whether it has a swipe interface when it comes to weeks? — s.

Nora Rodriguez
Joined Jun 2021
1,065 posts
#7

The one change that worked was rewriting the opener — it was the only change that showed up in the numbers.

On balance, when working out who is real is the issue, how often you open the app does more for response rate than the app's overall download figures for most of us.

Datebound is worth twenty minutes if you're building a shortlist.

Zoey Clark
Joined Mar 2020
321 posts
#8

That tracks — @Nora Rodriguez, the profile-quality point matches my experience.

How quickly you reply explains more of the odds of a second date than the number of prompts you filled in ever did on the sites.

What actually frustrates me is that on the sites, the free tier collapses once you move outside a major city.

The one change that worked was deleting everything and starting over — it made the whole thing feel less like admin.

Boiled down, for anyone weighing up weeks? — s:

  • Say what you want in the first two lines, and doubly so for ordinary users.
  • Keep the first meeting short and public, because it filters out most of the time-wasters immediately.
  • Stop apologising for wanting something specific, particularly on the sites.

Hope some of that helps when it comes to any good sex only sites where people don't want to chat for weeks? — s in practice.

Chloe Thompson
Joined Jun 2022
310 posts
#9

My working theory is that the marketing on the homepage gets the credit but the quality of your first message does the work.

Boiled down, for anyone weighing up any good sex only sites where people don't want to chat for weeks? — s:

  • Pick your own venue for a first meeting, particularly on the sites.
  • Ask one question, not four — it is the single strongest signal you control.
  • Give a platform three weeks before judging it — with weeks? — s this is the difference-maker.
  • Swap the group photo for a clear one, especially for ordinary users.
DakotaN
Joined Jul 2018
1,680 posts
#10

The recurring problem is that the free tier treats a fifty-mile radius as a suggestion.

The pattern I keep seeing is that when working out who is real is the issue, the size of the pool within ten miles predicts the proportion of real accounts you see better than how many matches you accumulate, though your area changes the picture completely for ordinary users.

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