Can someone give me a dating app comparison for the top 5 apps?

Started by Abigail Taylor · ·10 replies ·Free Dating & Apps

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Abigail Taylor
Joined Jun 2017
1,910 posts
#1

Came to give me a dating app comparison for the top 5 apps? — free dating & ap because the alternative was doing nothing, gave it nearly a year, and the picture is messier than people admit.

The detail that ruins it is that the support inbox turns into a shop window the moment someone matches, which is the real problem with no-payment platforms.

The one change that worked was rewriting the opener — it cut the wasted time by more than half with the question.

Direct experience of that side of it is what I'm after.

Lily Lewis
Joined Sep 2020
292 posts
#2

Echoing this — @Abigail Taylor, the timing observation matches my experience.

Where it falls down is that the distance filter gives you no idea when an account was last opened, which is the real problem with no-payment platforms.

The pattern I keep seeing is that when cutting through the roundups is the issue, the honesty of the bio matters more than how many matches you accumulate on no-payment platforms.

What survived contact with reality on this give me a dating app comparison for the top 5 apps? — free dating & problem:

  • Check when the account was last active if cutting through the roundups is your main concern.
  • Keep the first meeting short and public, particularly on no-payment platforms.
  • Reverse-image-search anything too polished, especially for the typical user.

Open to being wrong given how fast no-payment platforms change.

Does that hold outside the big cities on no-payment platforms?

HarperH
Joined Aug 2019
1,293 posts
#3

Leading with something slightly odd made a bigger difference than switching platforms and nothing else came close.

That is my read, not gospel for anyone in people in the middle of the pack.

AvaMeetups
Joined Sep 2021
385 posts
#4

That is not how it went for me. @Lily Lewis, the argument about verification held for a fortnight then stopped.

What actually frustrates me is that the distance filter exists mainly to push you toward an upgrade, especially once cutting through the roundups comes into it.

CharlotteC
Joined Sep 2022
201 posts
#5

For the typical user, answering within a day stopped the conversations dying at day two for people in the middle of the pack.

For what it is worth, how well a platform handles reports beats which platform you picked for the typical user.

Practical notes on cutting through the roundups:

  • Never move money under any framing, particularly on no-payment platforms.
  • Ask one question, not four, because the alternative wastes weeks.
  • Keep work and socials out of it early on, because the alternative wastes weeks.
  • Ask one question, not four, especially for the typical user.
  • Let a stalled conversation go if cutting through the roundups is your main concern.
SamanthaD
Joined Sep 2022
2,267 posts
#6

I want to gently disagree. @Abigail Taylor, the timing observation may have been better luck than most get.

For what it is worth, the number of photos you upload gets the credit but the quality of your first message does the work, though a friend had the reverse experience in the dating & ap context.

TravisP
Joined Nov 2021
270 posts
#7

The pattern I keep seeing is that the boost you paid for gets the credit but how narrow your filters are does the work.

For the typical user, putting one specific interest in the bio stopped the conversations dying at day two once cutting through the roundups was the priority.

What survived contact with reality on give me a:

  • Put something concrete in the opener — with dating & ap this is the difference-maker.
  • Swap the group photo for a clear one if cutting through the roundups is your main concern.
  • Move to a voice or video call early — with give me a dating app comparison for the top 5 apps? — free dating & ap this is the difference-maker.
  • Move to a voice or video call early if cutting through the roundups is your main concern.
  • Never move money under any framing, especially for the typical user.

Luvdate is worth twenty minutes and there is no paywall on the basics.

LauraC
Joined Aug 2022
1,665 posts
#8

Different result on my end. @AvaMeetups, the profile-quality point backfired when I tried it.

For what it is worth, how narrow your filters are does more for whether it feels worth the time than the feature list, and the sample size here is basically one.

Been running Datewander in parallel if you're building a shortlist.

EmmaDates
Joined May 2018
501 posts
#9

Does that hold outside the big cities in your own area?

Broadly, how often you open the app explains more of how satisfied you're after a month than which platform you picked ever did.

The thing I didn't expect was that the free tier makes it impossible to tell live accounts from dead ones.

Worth testing rather than taking my word at least on the cutting through the roundups side.

BrandonW
Joined Oct 2017
953 posts
#10

This is close to my read — @LauraC, the advice about calling early is spot on.

For the typical user, asking one real question instead of four improved things more than any paid feature.

My working theory is that how recently a profile was active predicts whether anything reaches a first meeting better than the feature list for the typical user, which may say more about how I use them for the typical user.

What wore me down was that the recommendation engine ignores about half of what you set — and nobody mentions it when they talk about cutting through the roundups.

If you take three things from this about the give me a dating app comparison for the top 5 apps? — free dating & question:

  • Read the profile before you send anything, and doubly so for the typical user.
  • Put something concrete in the opener — with the question this is the difference-maker.
  • Swap the group photo for a clear one — with this whole area this is the difference-maker.
TaylorM
Joined Nov 2022
1,711 posts
#11

For the typical user, putting one specific interest in the bio was the only change that showed up in the numbers.

A few things worth doing on no-payment platforms:

  • Give a platform three weeks before judging it, because it is the one thing that transfers across every app.
  • Give a platform three weeks before judging it if cutting through the roundups is your main concern.
  • Say what you want in the first two lines, which matters most on no-payment platforms.
  • Write the bio for one person, not everyone, especially for the typical user.

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