Does samysweet_8 respond to fan mail?

nearly a year in, after reading far too many roundups, and a couple of things stood out.

What actually frustrates me is that on the apps, the photo verification step buries you the moment you stop checking daily.

For what it is worth, the gap between how consistently you show up and which tier you're on is where how satisfied you're after a month is actually decided.

What I am actually trying to work out regarding the first-contact question:

• Is that a regional thing for most of us?
• Is anyone getting different results once you factor in the first-contact question?
• Is there a way to check before signing up on the apps?

On the apps, cutting the match list right down got three actual meetings out of six weeks for most of us.

Keen to hear from anyone who has dealt with samysweet_8 respond to fan mail? — messaging & first dates | datingfly lately.

Only partly agree. @GraceM, the argument about verification produced nothing on my end.

In practice, on the apps, how long you leave a conversation running matters more than which platform you picked, though it varies enormously by city.

I would push back a little. @GraceM, the timing observation may have been better luck than most get.

Where it falls down is that the profile editor buries you the moment you stop checking daily — and nobody mentions it when they talk about the first-contact question.

Shortening the bio by half improved things more than any paid feature and nothing else came close.

If you want a second option, Datebie and there is no paywall on the basics.

That isn't how it went for me. @AndrewL, the point about the first-contact question held for a fortnight then stopped.

For what it is worth, the gap between the response you give to a low-effort opener and which tier you're on is where whether anything reaches a first meeting is actually decided.

That tracks — @Lucas Miller, the bit about local activity deserves more attention than it gets.

What nobody mentions is that for most of us, the discovery feed produces a template reply and closes the ticket.

For anyone starting out, the shortlist:

• Read the profile before you send anything — with that side of it this is the difference-maker.
• Ask one question, not four, which matters most on the apps.
• Say what you want in the first two lines, because it saves you the conversation that was never going anywhere.
• Keep work and socials out of it early on if the first-contact question is your main concern.
• Reverse-image-search anything too polished, and doubly so for most of us.

Flurrydate is the other one I would put on a shortlist.