Does the farmers only dating app actually require you to live on a farm?

Started by HannahB · ·4 replies ·Niche & Community Dating

#compare #app #hobby

HannahB
Joined Sep 2025
1,370 posts
#1

roughly a year of trying to work out farmers only dating app actually require you to live on a farm? — nich, having given up on it once already, and two things mattered and the rest did not.

The recurring problem is that the profile editor quietly stops working after the first week, especially once the comparison problem comes into it.

In practice, the app's star rating gets the credit but the honesty of the bio does the work where the comparison problem is concerned.

Open questions, if anyone has dealt with farmers only dating:

  • Is there a way to check before signing up when you factor in this whole area?
  • Does that hold outside the big cities across app-based platforms?
  • Is that a regional thing for anyone in interest-led daters?
  • Does that hold outside the big cities for anyone weighing up the question?

For hobby-first users, setting fixed hours for it stopped the conversations dying at day two for interest-led daters.

Direct experience of farm? — nich is what I'm after.

Elizabeth Thomas
Joined Jan 2021
1,080 posts
#2

The pattern I keep seeing is that the size of the pool within ten miles predicts response rate better than how many matches you accumulate, but people in bigger cities tell me the opposite for hobby-first users.

For hobby-first users, asking one real question instead of four produced better matches within about ten days once the comparison problem was the priority.

Happy to be argued with if you're on app-based platforms.

Jackson Thomas
Joined Aug 2023
2,842 posts
#3

The pattern I keep seeing is that how recently a profile was active is a better predictor of response rate than the size of the company behind it.

Practical notes on the comparison problem:

  • Stop apologising for wanting something specific, which matters most on app-based platforms.
  • Turn the notifications off, because it saves you the conversation that was never going anywhere.
  • Stop apologising for wanting something specific, because it is the single strongest signal you control.
  • Screenshot anything odd before blocking, especially for hobby-first users.
  • Give a platform three weeks before judging it, because nothing else moves the numbers as reliably.

Worth a look at Datebie as well — free to browse and message, which is the main thing.

KristinA
Joined Aug 2021
539 posts
#4

The bit that keeps catching me out is that for hobby-first users, the profile editor rewards constant activity rather than genuine interest.

The pattern I keep seeing is that nothing changes how many replies you get in a week as much as the response you give to a low-effort opener for interest-led daters.

Does that hold outside the big cities across app-based platforms?

BrandonW
Joined Oct 2017
953 posts
#5

Deleting everything and starting over stopped the conversations dying at day two with that side of it.

Broadly, how well a platform handles reports counts for more than which platform you picked for hobby-first users.

Flurrydate came up in a similar thread and was worth the time.

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