How can I meet locals free without going to a bar?

Started by Wyatt Garcia · ·7 replies ·Local & International

#compare #free #general

Wyatt Garcia
Joined Jan 2024
329 posts
#1

I started looking at how to meet locals free without going to a bar? — local & internationa a solid three months ago after a long relationship ended, and the honest answer is it depends, but not on what people say it does.

The bit that keeps catching me out is that the free tier buries you the moment you stop checking daily, which is the real problem with free-tier services.

My working theory is that on free-tier services, how specific you're about what you want matters more than the boost you paid for for most people.

If you have opinions on how to meet locals free without going to a bar? — local & internationa, especially unpopular ones, go ahead.

Sofia Martinez
Joined Dec 2023
1,860 posts
#2

On free-tier services, shortening the bio by half was the only change that showed up in the numbers.

TrentH
Joined Dec 2019
2,785 posts
#3

I'd frame that differently. @Wyatt Garcia, the point about the comparison problem didn't hold for me.

On free-tier services, suggesting a meeting inside two weeks changed the kind of people who replied.

If you want something to compare against, Datescout is free to browse and message.

AlexisF
Joined Aug 2024
2,493 posts
#4

Is that still true for the average user?

For what it is worth, for the average user, the amount of detail in a bio tends to decide the proportion of real accounts you see, though a friend had the reverse experience where the comparison problem is concerned.

The bit that keeps catching me out is that the discovery feed buries you the moment you stop checking daily, especially once the comparison problem comes into it.

On free-tier services, rewriting the opener was the only change that showed up in the numbers.

If you take three things from this about how to meet:

  • Put something concrete in the opener if the comparison problem is your main concern.
  • Turn the notifications off — with how to meet this is the difference-maker.
  • Say what you want in the first two lines — the alternative wastes weeks.
  • Say what you want in the first two lines, because it is the one thing that transfers across every app.
  • Check when the account was last active, which matters most on free-tier services.

Interested if others landed elsewhere especially for most people.

Has anyone had the reverse happen for anyone weighing up how to meet locals free without going to a bar? — local & internationa?

James Anderson
Joined Jan 2018
2,084 posts
#5

Has anyone got numbers rather than impressions for most people?

Moving to a call early roughly doubled the reply rate, which surprised me.

The pattern I keep seeing is that whether you actually read the profile beats the price of the subscription when it comes to the how to meet locals free without going to a bar? — local & internat question.

VeronicaT
Joined Nov 2020
68 posts
#6

The pattern I keep seeing is that which tier you are on gets the credit but whether you actually read the profile does the work when it comes to how to meet.

The thing I did not expect was that the messaging limit makes it impossible to tell live accounts from dead ones, which is the real problem with free-tier services.

EZHookups is another to throw in the mix and there is no paywall on the basics.

Interested if others landed elsewhere at least on the the comparison problem side.

Wyatt Garcia
Joined Jan 2024
329 posts
#7

On free-tier services, leading with something slightly odd got three actual meetings out of six weeks once the comparison problem was the priority.

For what it is worth, the response you give to a low-effort opener is a better predictor of the odds of a second date than the number of photos you upload for the average user.

What survived contact with reality on how to meet locals free without going to a bar? — local & internat in practice:

  • Keep work and socials out of it early on if the comparison problem is your main concern.
  • Keep work and socials out of it early on, especially for most people.
  • Check when the account was last active — with how to meet this is the difference-maker.

Interested if others landed elsewhere when it comes to how to meet.

Sofia Martinez
Joined Dec 2023
1,860 posts
#8

Suggesting a meeting inside two weeks got three actual meetings out of six weeks on free-tier services.

What actually frustrates me is that the recommendation engine ignores about half of what you set — and nobody mentions it when they talk about the comparison problem.

Short version for most people:

  • Stop apologising for wanting something specific — with this this is the difference-maker.
  • Screenshot anything odd before blocking, and doubly so for most people.
  • Put something concrete in the opener, particularly on free-tier services.
  • Keep the first meeting short and public if the comparison problem is your main concern.
  • Swap the group photo for a clear one, especially for most people.

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