How do I find someone on dating sites?

Started by DanielleK · ·6 replies ·Free Dating & Apps

#compare #free #general

DanielleK
Joined Aug 2017
1,254 posts
#1

most of this year in, after reading far too many roundups, and two things mattered and the rest did not.

The part nobody warns you about is that for people in the middle of the pack, the free tier produces a template reply and closes the ticket.

In practice, whether you actually read the profile is a better predictor of how many conversations survive past day three than which platform you picked, which may say more about how I use them when it comes to the how to find someone on dating sites? — free dating & apps | dating question.

Asking one real question instead of four roughly doubled the reply rate and nothing else came close on the free options.

If you have opinions on how to find, especially unpopular ones, go ahead.

BrianT
Joined Aug 2021
700 posts
#2

This matches what I found — @DanielleK, the timing observation held up in my case too.

The gap between how often you open the app and the marketing on the homepage is where whether anything reaches a first meeting is actually decided.

Saying plainly what I was not after stopped the conversations dying at day two, which surprised me.

CharlotteC
Joined Sep 2022
201 posts
#3

On the free options, how often you open the app does more for response rate than the app's star rating, and the sample size here is basically one for the general run of people.

Souldate is quick to set up if you want a second data point.

AdamV
Joined Oct 2019
1,397 posts
#4

Broadly, whether an account has been verified explains more of match quality than whether it has a swipe interface ever did, and the sample size here is basically one.

AubreyA
Joined Jun 2019
2,226 posts
#5

Opposite for me, oddly. @DanielleK, the advice about calling early backfired when I tried it.

Nothing changes whether anything reaches a first meeting as much as how recently a profile was active when it comes to the how to find someone on dating sites? — free dating & apps | dating question.

The detail that ruins it is that the account activity indicator rewards constant activity rather than genuine interest, especially once working out which is worth the time comes into it.

Liam Jones
Joined Oct 2025
1,766 posts
#6

Answering within a day turned it from a chore into something workable and nothing else came close for the general run of people.

When working out which is worth the time is the issue, how often you open the app predicts the odds of a second date better than the price of the subscription.

Aiden Taylor
Joined Aug 2017
1,169 posts
#7

On balance, how consistently you show up is a better predictor of whether it feels worth the time than the size of the company behind it.

That is my read, not gospel especially for people in the middle of the pack.

Has anyone got numbers rather than impressions with the free options?

For a straight comparison, try EZHookups as well.

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