How do you filter out the scammers when you're cougars seeking young men?

Started by Ella White · ·7 replies ·Niche & Community Dating

#safety #app #mature

Ella White
Joined Jul 2023
1,164 posts
#1

three or four months of trying to work out filter out the scammers when you're cougars seeking young men? — safet, because a friend talked me into it, and I'm less certain than when I started.

The bit that keeps catching me out is that the support inbox produces a template reply and closes the ticket.

For older women and their matches, how long you leave a conversation running tends to decide whether it feels worth the time, though it varies enormously by city on dating apps.

Any recent, first-hand input on filter out the scammers when you're cougars seeking young men? — safet appreciated.

BrandonW
Joined Oct 2017
953 posts
#2

My working theory is that the gap between how well a platform handles reports and how polished the profile looks is where how many replies you get in a week is actually decided in the filter out the scammers when you're cougars seeking young men? — safet specifically context.

HarperH
Joined Aug 2019
1,293 posts
#3

Is that worth the time investment in wherever you happen to live?

The pattern I keep seeing is that on dating apps, how well a platform handles reports has a bigger effect on whether it feels worth the time than the app's overall download figures, though it varies enormously by city for mature daters.

On dating apps, dropping the filters made conversations last past the first exchange on dating apps.

FinleyO
Joined Oct 2017
188 posts
#4

On dating apps, deleting everything and starting over stopped the conversations dying at day two.

CharlotteC
Joined Sep 2022
201 posts
#5

Echoing this — @Ella White, the remark about filters matches my experience.

The thing I did not expect was that the distance filter turns into a shop window the moment someone matches, especially once working out who is real comes into it.

Broadly, how long you leave a conversation running matters more than the marketing on the homepage on dating apps.

What actually held up on filter out the scammers when you're cougars seeking young men? — safet:

  • Swap the group photo for a clear one, which matters most on dating apps.
  • Set a daily time limit, particularly on dating apps.
  • Keep work and socials out of it early on, especially for mature daters.

If you want a second option, Turndate — free to browse and message, which is the main thing.

ZachW
Joined Dec 2023
2,056 posts
#6

The thing I didn't expect was that the photo verification step throttles how many people can actually see you — and nobody mentions it when they talk about working out who is real.

For what it is worth, how long you leave a conversation running is a better predictor of the odds of a second date than the number of prompts you filled in, though it varies enormously by city.

Would like to hear a counter-argument where working out who is real is concerned.

ColbyR
Joined Apr 2022
2,943 posts
#7

Broadly, when working out who is real is the issue, whether an account has been verified has a bigger effect on response rate than how polished the profile looks.

The bit that keeps catching me out is that the recommendation engine surfaces profiles that haven't been touched in months, which is the real problem with dating apps.

Someone pointed me at Flurrydate if you are testing a few at once.

Chloe Thompson
Joined Jun 2022
310 posts
#8

I read it the other way. @ColbyR, the profile-quality point may have been better luck than most get.

The thing I didn't expect was that for mature daters, the profile editor collapses once you move outside a major city.

My working theory is that on dating apps, the clarity of your main photo counts for more than how polished the profile looks when it comes to men? — safet.

Worth a look at Datewander as well and the activity level was better than I expected.

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