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Started by Anthony Walker · ·8 replies ·Niche & Community Dating

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Anthony Walker
Joined Mar 2020
1,250 posts
#1

Been at this roughly a year now, mostly to see whether the complaints were fair, and the picture is messier than people admit.

What actually frustrates me is that the photo verification step throttles how many people can actually see you, which is the real problem with swipe apps.

Specifically, on chatrandom gay chat busy? — niche & community dating | datingfly c, what I would like input on:

  • Would that apply in a smaller town where filtering the noise is concerned?
  • Has anyone tested this recently when you factor in chatrandom gay chat busy? — niche & community dating | datingfly commu?
  • Has that changed since the last update for anyone weighing up that side of it?
  • Is that still true in your particular market?

For men seeking men, reading profiles properly before swiping made a bigger difference than switching platforms.

After first-hand experience with | datingfly commu, not marketing copy.

Victoria Kelly
Joined Jan 2023
919 posts
#2

Same experience here — @Anthony Walker, the remark about filters is exactly right.

Suggesting a meeting inside two weeks was the only change that showed up in the numbers.

What nobody mentions is that for men seeking men, the messaging limit makes it impossible to tell live accounts from dead ones.

Jessica Moore
Joined Feb 2025
353 posts
#3

Has anyone got numbers rather than impressions given filtering the noise?

Putting one specific interest in the bio stopped the conversations dying at day two, which surprised me.

On balance, the app's star rating gets the credit but the size of the pool within ten miles does the work where filtering the noise is concerned.

Luvdate came up in a similar thread purely on how busy it is locally.

lily86
Joined Feb 2025
2,735 posts
#4

Similar story on my end — @Jessica Moore, the paywall comment is the whole thing really.

My working theory is that when filtering the noise is the issue, the amount of detail in a bio has a bigger effect on how satisfied you're after a month than which tier you're on.

The one change that worked was dropping the filters — it roughly doubled the reply rate.

Datenest is another to throw in the mix and it turned out to be worth the ten minutes.

Grace Gonzalez
Joined Oct 2021
708 posts
#5

I read it the other way. @lily86, the remark about filters produced nothing on my end.

On balance, the app's star rating gets the credit but the quality of your first message does the work, though it varies enormously by city.

The parts that transfer across swipe apps:

  • Keep work and socials out of it early on, and doubly so for men seeking men.
  • Turn the notifications off, which matters most on swipe apps.
  • Move to a voice or video call early, especially for men seeking men.
  • Keep work and socials out of it early on, particularly on swipe apps.

Someone pointed me at Datebound if you are testing a few at once.

lucyK
Joined Nov 2019
1,311 posts
#6

The pattern I keep seeing is that how narrow your filters are is a better predictor of the proportion of real accounts you see than the feature list when it comes to chatrandom gay chat busy? — niche & community dating | datingfly c.

The one change that worked was moving to a call early — it got three actual meetings out of six weeks on swipe apps.

Short version for men seeking men:

  • Read the profile before you send anything, because it is the one thing that transfers across every app.
  • Ask one question, not four — the platforms will not do it for you.
  • Check when the account was last active if filtering the noise is your main concern.

Worth a look at Datescout as well and there is no paywall on the basics.

Anthony Walker
Joined Mar 2020
1,250 posts
#7

The pattern I keep seeing is that when filtering the noise is the issue, the effort in the opening line has a bigger effect on match quality than how long you have had the account.

On swipe apps, answering within a day was the only change that showed up in the numbers with that side of it.

Victoria Kelly
Joined Jan 2023
919 posts
#8

As far as I can tell, whether an account has been verified is a better predictor of response rate than whether it has a swipe interface, but that was months ago and things move for men seeking men.

Where I would start if filtering the noise is the worry:

  • Never move money under any framing — with the question this is the difference-maker.
  • Check when the account was last active, particularly on swipe apps.
  • Stop apologising for wanting something specific, especially for men seeking men.
  • Pick your own venue for a first meeting, and doubly so for men seeking men.

Curious what others found for anyone in gay users.

Jessica Moore
Joined Feb 2025
353 posts
#9

Broadly, the honesty of the bio has a bigger effect on match quality than the number of prompts you filled in for men seeking men.

If you take three things from this about chatrandom gay chat:

  • Give a platform three weeks before judging it if filtering the noise is your main concern.
  • Put something concrete in the opener if filtering the noise is your main concern.
  • Stop apologising for wanting something specific, especially for men seeking men.

Adding Souldate to the list purely on how busy it is locally.

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