Is the best dating app for married people truly anonymous?

Started by EllieE · ·9 replies ·Niche & Community Dating

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EllieE
Joined Jan 2020
1,385 posts
#1

Posting this after an embarrassing amount of time on best dating app for married people truly anonymous? — safety & verific — my view has shifted twice since.

The recurring problem is that the search function produces a template reply and closes the ticket, which is the real problem with app-based platforms.

Something worth knowing: whether an account has been verified counts for more than the number of prompts you filled in.

Open questions, if anyone has dealt with the best dating app for married people truly anonymous? — safety & ver question:

  • Is there a way to check before signing up when you factor in best dating app?
  • Has that changed since the last update for anyone weighing up this?
  • Is that still true where due diligence is concerned?

If anyone has tested best dating app for married people truly anonymous? — safety & verific recently I'd rather hear that than another roundup.

Abigail Taylor
Joined Jun 2017
1,910 posts
#2

My experience was almost the opposite. @EllieE, the paywall comment produced nothing on my end.

In practice, when due diligence is the issue, whether the photos look like the same person makes more difference than whether it has a swipe interface for that particular niche.

Rendate has been the steadier of the ones I run purely on how busy it is locally.

DustinF
Joined Aug 2018
2,746 posts
#3

The recurring problem is that on app-based platforms, the match queue makes it impossible to tell live accounts from dead ones.

ElliotG
Joined Aug 2024
2,081 posts
#4

Leading with something slightly odd got three actual meetings out of six weeks, which surprised me on app-based platforms.

My working theory is that for that particular niche, the quality of your first message tends to decide the proportion of real accounts you see, though your area changes the picture completely where due diligence is concerned.

NoraNights
Joined Oct 2025
1,360 posts
#5

I'd push back a little. @EllieE, the point about due diligence backfired when I tried it.

Shortening the bio by half was the only change that showed up in the numbers.

The bit that keeps catching me out is that on app-based platforms, the support inbox buries you the moment you stop checking daily.

Jack Martin
Joined Nov 2019
385 posts
#6

Seconding this — @EllieE, the bit about local activity is the one I would emphasise.

In practice, the size of the pool within ten miles explains more of how satisfied you're after a month than the app's star rating ever did.

The compressed version, due diligence included:

  • Check when the account was last active, especially for people in complicated situations.
  • Put something concrete in the opener, and doubly so for people in complicated situations.
  • Ask one question, not four, especially for people in complicated situations.

Would like to hear a counter-argument for anyone in that particular niche.

EllieE
Joined Jan 2020
1,385 posts
#7

That tracks — @Abigail Taylor, the point about due diligence is spot on.

Broadly, nothing changes the proportion of real accounts you see as much as the size of the pool within ten miles, but people in bigger cities tell me the opposite on app-based platforms.

I'd add Datelink and it turned out to be worth the ten minutes.

Adjust for your own situation given how fast app-based platforms change.

Abigail Taylor
Joined Jun 2017
1,910 posts
#8

I'd push back a little. @EllieE, the framing around people in complicated situations backfired when I tried it.

For what it is worth, on app-based platforms, whether the photos look like the same person has a bigger effect on the proportion of real accounts you see than the boost you paid for.

The one change that worked was leading with something slightly odd — it got three actual meetings out of six weeks once due diligence was the priority.

Datescout is another to throw in the mix if you want something to compare against.

DustinF
Joined Aug 2018
2,746 posts
#9

More often than not, the gap between the response you give to a low-effort opener and whether it has a swipe interface is where how many conversations survive past day three is actually decided.

Moving to a call early made the whole thing feel less like admin.

Your results may differ for anyone in that particular niche.

ElliotG
Joined Aug 2024
2,081 posts
#10

Not sure I agree. @Abigail Taylor, the point about due diligence did not hold for me.

Broadly, nothing changes match quality as much as the quality of your first message.

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