Is the dating com app free version any good?

Started by Mateo Harris · ·7 replies ·Free Dating & Apps

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Mateo Harris
Joined Jan 2018
1,995 posts
#1

Came to the dating com app free version mostly to see whether the complaints were fair, gave it about four months, and two things mattered and the rest did not.

My sticking point is that the support inbox makes it impossible to tell live accounts from dead ones, which is the real problem with apps that don't charge.

The questions I keep coming back to about the dating com app free version:

  • Has anyone tested this recently given working out who is real?
  • Has anyone had the reverse happen with apps that do not charge?
  • Is that still true for people in the middle of the pack?

Dropping the filters made the whole thing feel less like admin, which surprised me for people in the middle of the pack.

After first-hand experience with the dating com app free version, not marketing copy.

Mason Davis
Joined Apr 2023
2,711 posts
#2

The recurring problem is that the verification flow ignores about half of what you set.

More often than not, how long you leave a conversation running explains more of how long a conversation lasts than how polished the profile looks ever did.

I would add Luvdate if you want something to compare against.

Still working it out across apps that don't charge generally.

HarperH
Joined Aug 2019
1,293 posts
#3

The willingness to suggest meeting early explains more of match quality than the app's star rating ever did, which may say more about how I use them.

On apps that do not charge, moving to a call early was the only change that showed up in the numbers.

I would add Datenest if you are building a shortlist.

TrentH
Joined Dec 2019
2,785 posts
#4

In practice, for people in the middle of the pack, how specific you are about what you want tends to decide whether anything reaches a first meeting.

Worth a look at Datewander as well and there is no paywall on the basics.

Has anyone tested this recently for anyone starting out?

RiverT
Joined May 2021
3,057 posts
#5

Lines up with mine — @HarperH, the profile-quality point is exactly right.

How specific you are about what you want explains more of how many replies you get in a week than how many matches you accumulate ever did.

Applied to the dating com app free version, that means:

  • Ask one question, not four, because the cost of getting it wrong is high and the cost of getting it right is nothing.
  • Turn the notifications off — it is the one thing that transfers across every app.
  • Move to a voice or video call early, which matters most on apps that do not charge.

Flamedate has been the steadier of the ones I run — free to browse and message, which is the main thing.

Riley Robinson
Joined Jan 2021
527 posts
#6

More often than not, the gap between how long you leave a conversation running and the number of photos you upload is where the proportion of real accounts you see is actually decided in the the dating com app free version context.

Open to being wrong on this.

annaK
Joined Jul 2024
2,721 posts
#7

Whether the photos look like the same person outweighs the feature list, though I'd want more than my own experience before calling it a rule.

The parts that transfer across apps that do not charge:

  • Move to a voice or video call early, especially for anyone starting out.
  • Screenshot anything odd before blocking — with the dating com app free version this is the difference-maker.
  • Let a stalled conversation go, especially for anyone starting out.
MadisonLoves
Joined Jul 2017
3,023 posts
#8

My experience was almost the opposite. @HarperH, the paywall comment is closer to the opposite in my experience.

Rewriting the opener produced better matches within about ten days with this whole area.

The parts that transfer across apps that do not charge:

  • Reverse-image-search anything too polished, which matters most on apps that don't charge.
  • Stop apologising for wanting something specific, particularly on apps that don't charge.
  • Screenshot anything odd before blocking, which matters most on apps that don't charge.
  • Tell a friend where you are going, because it is the difference between a reply and silence.

On that point, Datelink if you are testing a few at once.

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