half a year of trying to work out best single dating sites for people in their 30s? — free dating & apps, after reading far too many roundups, and I'm less certain than when I started.
What wore me down was that the account activity indicator quietly stops working after the first week, especially once choosing between platforms comes into it.
On balance, how narrow your filters are is a better predictor of the proportion of real accounts you see than the feature list.
The questions I keep coming back to about best single dating sites for people in their 30s? — free dating & in practice:
Has that changed since the last update on free-tier services?
Has anyone tested this recently with free-tier services?
Does that change much where choosing between platforms is concerned?
Is anyone getting different results if you are dealing with choosing between platforms?
Is that still true for people without a niche?
Keen to hear from anyone who has dealt with best single dating lately.
The bit that keeps catching me out is that the distance filter rewards constant activity rather than genuine interest, especially once choosing between platforms comes into it.
Deleting everything and starting over roughly doubled the reply rate and nothing else came close on free-tier services.
Has anyone compared the two directly with free-tier services?
Strongly agree — @Caleb Rodriguez, the bit about local activity matches my experience.
Something worth knowing: whether an account has been verified has a bigger effect on response rate than how long you have had the account, which may say more about how I use them.
For people without a niche, the shortlist:
Screenshot anything odd before blocking, especially for most people.
Check when the account was last active — it is the one thing that transfers across every app.
Keep the first meeting short and public, especially for most people.
Check when the account was last active — it filters out most of the time-wasters immediately.
Read the profile before you send anything, and doubly so for most people.
For most people, moving to a call early made conversations last past the first exchange on free-tier services.
On free-tier services, the response you give to a low-effort opener beats how polished the profile looks on free-tier services.
The thing I didn't expect was that the search function makes it impossible to tell live accounts from dead ones — and nobody mentions it when they talk about choosing between platforms.
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