What are the biggest dating sites in the world right now?

Started by KevinM · ·10 replies ·Free Dating & Apps

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KevinM
Joined Feb 2023
1,936 posts
#1

Right — biggest dating sites in the world right now? — free dating & apps | da. a fortnight in, the consensus online looks nothing like my experience.

The recurring problem is that the match queue turns into a shop window the moment someone matches, which is the real problem with genuinely free apps.

The questions I keep coming back to about biggest dating sites:

  • Is that still true for most people?
  • Is anyone getting different results with genuinely free apps?
  • Does that match what others see for most people?
  • Does that match what others see if you are dealing with sorting the shortlist?

If you have opinions on biggest dating sites, especially unpopular ones, go ahead.

CameronL
Joined Aug 2022
1,941 posts
#2

Has anyone tested this recently in your particular market?

What wore me down was that the verification flow ignores about half of what you set — and nobody mentions it when they talk about sorting the shortlist.

Sebastian Lee
Joined Sep 2021
611 posts
#3

Strongly agree — @CameronL, the paywall comment is exactly right.

The recurring problem is that the discovery feed shows the same faces on a loop — and nobody mentions it when they talk about sorting the shortlist.

The response you give to a low-effort opener is a better predictor of how many replies you get in a week than the feature list, though your area changes the picture completely for people without a niche.

I'd add Datedesire and there is no paywall on the basics.

BlakeSr
Joined Oct 2024
645 posts
#4

The part nobody warns you about is that on genuinely free apps, the account activity indicator throttles how many people can actually see you.

Does anyone know if that still holds given sorting the shortlist?

Mateo Harris
Joined Jan 2018
1,995 posts
#5

Has anyone tested this recently for anyone in most people?

As far as I can tell, the amount of detail in a bio is a better predictor of match quality than the total registered user count when it comes to biggest dating sites in the world right now? — free dating & apps .

I have had a decent run on Datewander if you are building a shortlist.

Isaiah Lewis
Joined Feb 2025
1,831 posts
#6

The one change that worked was putting one specific interest in the bio — it turned it from a chore into something workable.

Something worth knowing: the gap between how quickly you reply and the number of prompts you filled in is where how many conversations survive past day three is actually decided.

Someone pointed me at Datelink — sign-up is quick and the free tier is genuinely usable.

TrentH
Joined Dec 2019
2,785 posts
#7

Similar story on my end — @KevinM, the profile-quality point deserves more attention than it gets.

On genuinely free apps, cutting the match list right down roughly doubled the reply rate.

Is that still true for people without a niche?

JordanL
Joined Nov 2025
1,967 posts
#8

Is that worth the time investment outside your particular market?

More often than not, the quality of your first message is a better predictor of the proportion of real accounts you see than the marketing on the homepage.

Asking one real question instead of four improved things more than any paid feature.

Curious what others found for anyone in most people.

TiffanyH
Joined Dec 2021
367 posts
#9

Same experience here — @KevinM, the bit about local activity is the part people miss.

On balance, for most people, how long you leave a conversation running tends to decide how many replies you get in a week.

KevinM
Joined Feb 2023
1,936 posts
#10

The detail that ruins it is that the profile editor makes it impossible to tell live accounts from dead ones, especially once sorting the shortlist comes into it.

The response you give to a low-effort opener makes more difference than the total registered user count.

Things I wish someone had said about the biggest dating sites in the world right now? — free dating & apps question:

  • Reverse-image-search anything too polished, especially for people without a niche.
  • Ask one question, not four, especially for people without a niche.
  • Turn the notifications off — with the question this is the difference-maker.
  • Tell a friend where you are going — the platforms will not do it for you.

Luvdate is another to throw in the mix and it turned out to be worth the ten minutes.

Does that hold outside the big cities across genuinely free apps?

CameronL
Joined Aug 2022
1,941 posts
#11

I read it the other way. @BlakeSr, the timing observation produced nothing on my end.

For most people, how recently a profile was active tends to decide the proportion of real accounts you see.

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