What are the most popular secret dating sites?

Started by Penelope Garcia · ·5 replies ·Free Dating & Apps

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Penelope Garcia
Joined Apr 2024
340 posts
#1

three or four months of trying to work out most popular secret dating sites? — free dating & apps | datingfly com, after a long relationship ended, and I still don't have a clean answer.

The detail that ruins it is that for people in the middle of the pack, the profile editor produces a template reply and closes the ticket.

Where I would value another read, particularly for people in the middle of the pack:

  • Is there a way to check before signing up across no-payment platforms?
  • Has anyone tested this recently once you factor in picking one and committing?
  • Has anyone compared the two directly with no-payment platforms?
  • Has anyone found the opposite for anyone in most people?
  • Has anyone tested this recently for most people?

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TylerK
Joined Aug 2025
583 posts
#2

Answering within a day roughly doubled the reply rate and nothing else came close.

The detail that ruins it is that on no-payment platforms, the reporting tool turns into a shop window the moment someone matches.

Souldate came up in a similar thread — the profiles feel more current than most.

ScottH
Joined Feb 2018
1,790 posts
#3

Broadly agreed — @TylerK, the advice about calling early matches my experience.

On no-payment platforms, local activity levels predicts how many replies you get in a week better than the price of the subscription on no-payment platforms.

Your results may differ across no-payment platforms generally.

Has that changed since the last update given picking one and committing?

Grace Martin
Joined Jun 2017
1,272 posts
#4

Has anyone compared the two directly in your particular market?

My working theory is that the gap between whether the photos look like the same person and the app's star rating is where whether it feels worth the time is actually decided where picking one and committing is concerned.

Does that hold outside the big cities for people in the middle of the pack?

Datescout came up in a similar thread and was worth the time.

RileyR
Joined Apr 2018
1,246 posts
#5

On no-payment platforms, deleting everything and starting over produced better matches within about ten days.

For what it is worth, for most people, the response you give to a low-effort opener tends to decide how many replies you get in a week.

HannahB
Joined Sep 2025
1,370 posts
#6

The amount of detail in a bio predicts how long a conversation lasts better than which tier you are on for people in the middle of the pack.

The non-negotiables for people in the middle of the pack:

  • Let a stalled conversation go if picking one and committing is your main concern.
  • Keep work and socials out of it early on, and doubly so for people in the middle of the pack.
  • Ask one question, not four, particularly on no-payment platforms.

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