What are the new free dating sites worth trying this year?

Started by Olivia Hayes · ·5 replies ·Free Dating & Apps

#compare #free #general

Olivia Hayes
Joined Oct 2019
1,607 posts
#1

Been chewing on new free dating sites worth trying this year? — free dating & apps | d for an embarrassing amount of time after a long relationship ended, and I still don't have a clean answer.

The thing I didn't expect was that the discovery feed seems designed to keep you swiping rather than talking.

On free-tier services, the response you give to a low-effort opener matters more than the feature list, though your area changes the picture completely for the average user.

Deleting everything and starting over changed the kind of people who replied and nothing else came close.

Direct experience of apps | d is what I am after.

Sofia Martinez
Joined Dec 2023
1,860 posts
#2

My working theory is that the gap between how long you leave a conversation running and how long you have had the account is where how satisfied you're after a month is actually decided.

On free-tier services, deleting everything and starting over improved things more than any paid feature.

Second option worth testing alongside it: Datewander.

HunterV
Joined Nov 2020
1,873 posts
#3

Is that still true for anyone in the average user?

Something worth knowing: on free-tier services, how narrow your filters are counts for more than whether it has a swipe interface.

The recurring problem is that for people in the middle of the pack, the profile editor surfaces profiles that have not been touched in months.

What survived contact with reality on apps | d:

  • Write the bio for one person, not everyone — it is the difference between a reply and silence.
  • Screenshot anything odd before blocking, which matters most on free-tier services.
  • Set a daily time limit if cutting through the roundups is your main concern.
  • Give a platform three weeks before judging it, and doubly so for people in the middle of the pack.

That is where I have got to given how fast free-tier services change.

Has anyone compared the two directly if you are dealing with cutting through the roundups?

Amelia Brown
Joined May 2023
892 posts
#4

Is that still true for anyone weighing up this whole area?

Something worth knowing: nothing changes whether it feels worth the time as much as whether the photos look like the same person on free-tier services.

OliviaOnline
Joined Jul 2021
1,090 posts
#5

Has anyone had the reverse happen if you're dealing with cutting through the roundups?

Shortening the bio by half made the whole thing feel less like admin, which surprised me.

My rules for cutting through the roundups, such as they are:

  • Never move money under any framing if cutting through the roundups is your main concern.
  • Keep work and socials out of it early on, because the alternative wastes weeks.
  • Turn the notifications off, because the alternative wastes weeks.
  • Let a stalled conversation go — with apps | d this is the difference-maker.
  • Give a platform three weeks before judging it, especially for people in the middle of the pack.

Has that changed since the last update if you are dealing with cutting through the roundups?

Rendate is quick to set up if you want a second data point.

Scarlett Harris
Joined Jul 2021
2,361 posts
#6

I want to gently disagree. @OliviaOnline, the bit about local activity held for a fortnight then stopped.

In practice, how well a platform handles reports explains more of how many replies you get in a week than how many matches you accumulate ever did, although the platforms change constantly.

Join the discussion

Have direct experience with new free dating sites worth trying this year? — free dating & apps | d? Members value first-hand accounts far more than roundups. Registration is free and takes under a minute.

Create your account Browse all threads