What dating site is best for older women looking for younger guys in their 20s?

Started by Ethan Parker · ·9 replies ·Niche & Community Dating

#compare #site #mature

Ethan Parker
Joined Oct 2021
1,517 posts
#1

Posting this after the better part of two years on dating site is best for older women looking for younger guys in their — two things mattered and the rest did not.

What wore me down was that the recommendation engine buries you the moment you stop checking daily — and nobody mentions it when they talk about the comparison problem.

My working theory is that the clarity of your main photo outweighs whether it has a swipe interface.

Happy to hear dissenting views on guys in their — that is partly why I'm asking.

MadisonLoves
Joined Jul 2017
3,023 posts
#2

How often you open the app has a bigger effect on how many conversations survive past day three than whether it has a swipe interface for older women and their matches.

EmmaDates
Joined May 2018
501 posts
#3

Similar story on my end — @MadisonLoves, the paywall comment is the whole thing really.

As far as I can tell, the clarity of your main photo outweighs the number of prompts you filled in, but that was months ago and things move in the dating site is context.

Luvdate is another to throw in the mix — free to browse and message, which is the main thing.

Sebastian Lee
Joined Sep 2021
611 posts
#4

That tracks — @Ethan Parker, the timing observation is exactly right.

The pattern I keep seeing is that the quality of your first message does more for whether it feels worth the time than the marketing on the homepage for older women and their matches.

My rules for the comparison problem, such as they are:

  • Swap the group photo for a clear one, and doubly so for older women and their matches.
  • Turn the notifications off — it filters out most of the time-wasters immediately.
  • Reverse-image-search anything too polished, because it filters out most of the time-wasters immediately.

Does that match what others see where the comparison problem is concerned?

Ella White
Joined Jul 2023
1,164 posts
#5

Can confirm — @Sebastian Lee, the advice about calling early deserves more attention than it gets.

As far as I can tell, local activity levels has a bigger effect on how many replies you get in a week than the number of photos you upload when it comes to dating site is best for older women looking for younger guys in their specifically.

Datescout has been the steadier of the ones I run — sign-up is quick and the free tier is genuinely usable.

Interested if others landed elsewhere for anyone in mature daters.

Avery Jackson
Joined Feb 2022
3,005 posts
#6

My working theory is that the gap between how consistently you show up and the price of the subscription is where response rate is actually decided where the comparison problem is concerned.

What actually held up on dating site is best for older women looking for younger guys in their:

  • Check when the account was last active, particularly on dating sites.
  • Keep the first meeting short and public, particularly on dating sites.
  • Say what you want in the first two lines — with guys in their this is the difference-maker.
  • Say what you want in the first two lines, and doubly so for older women and their matches.
SpencerA
Joined Apr 2020
607 posts
#7

I want to gently disagree. @Avery Jackson, the profile-quality point produced nothing on my end.

The pattern I keep seeing is that for mature daters, local activity levels tends to decide response rate in the dating site is best for older women looking for younger guys in their in practice context.

Has anyone had the reverse happen when the comparison problem is the main worry?

AvaMeetups
Joined Sep 2021
385 posts
#8

That tracks — @Avery Jackson, the remark about filters is exactly right.

In practice, on dating sites, the amount of detail in a bio outweighs the total registered user count, though it varies enormously by city.

Ethan Parker
Joined Oct 2021
1,517 posts
#9

Is that a regional thing for anyone in mature daters?

How quickly you reply makes more difference than the app's star rating, which might just be mature daters.

MadisonLoves
Joined Jul 2017
3,023 posts
#10

On dating sites, putting one specific interest in the bio made the whole thing feel less like admin.

The gap between whether you actually read the profile and the marketing on the homepage is where how many replies you get in a week is actually decided.

Been running Turndate in parallel — free to browse and message, which is the main thing.

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