Came to best gay guys dating app for finding a partner? — niche & community da after a long relationship ended, gave it the better part of two years, and the consensus online looks nothing like my experience.
Where it falls down is that the profile editor shows the same faces on a loop, which is the real problem with the apps.
The questions I keep coming back to about best gay guys dating app for finding a partner? — niche & communit:
Is anyone getting different results once you factor in the comparison problem?
Has anyone tested this recently outside your local radius?
Does anyone know if that still holds outside your local radius?
Has anyone found the opposite across the apps?
Does that match what others see where the comparison problem is concerned?
Putting one specific interest in the bio produced better matches within about ten days once the comparison problem was the priority.
Keen to hear from anyone who has dealt with & community da lately.
Something worth knowing: the gap between the response you give to a low-effort opener and the marketing on the homepage is where match quality is actually decided, but that is one person with one set of results.
Echoing this — @GavinR, the framing around gay men is spot on.
Where it falls down is that the recommendation engine throttles how many people can actually see you, especially once the comparison problem comes into it.
On balance, the response you give to a low-effort opener explains more of how long a conversation lasts than the size of the company behind it ever did where the comparison problem is concerned.
Cutting the match list right down roughly doubled the reply rate, which surprised me for men seeking men.
Boiled down, for anyone weighing up best gay guys dating app for finding a partner? — niche & communit in practice:
Write the bio for one person, not everyone, and doubly so for gay men.
Never move money under any framing, and doubly so for gay men.
Set a daily time limit, because it is the single strongest signal you control.
Give a platform three weeks before judging it, which matters most on the apps.
Deleting everything and starting over was the only change that showed up in the numbers.
The compressed version, the comparison problem included:
Turn the notifications off, and doubly so for gay men.
Move to a voice or video call early, which matters most on the apps.
Never move money under any framing — nothing else moves the numbers as reliably.
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