What is the best lesbian dating website?

Started by JasperH · ·7 replies ·Niche & Community Dating

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JasperH
Joined Nov 2017
2,800 posts
#1

half a year of trying to work out best lesbian dating website? — niche & community dating | datingfly co, after a long relationship ended, and my view has shifted twice since.

The detail that ruins it is that the search function shows the same faces on a loop, which is the real problem with desktop dating platforms.

For anyone who has used desktop dating platforms recently:

  • Has anyone found the opposite for queer women?
  • Is that still true in a mid-sized city?
  • Is that still true outside a mid-sized city?

Keen to hear from anyone who has dealt with best lesbian dating website? — niche & community dating | datingfl lately.

MorganP
Joined Apr 2017
2,015 posts
#2

The bit that keeps catching me out is that the free tier quietly stops working after the first week, especially once working out what is actually different comes into it.

Picking one platform and sticking with it made the whole thing feel less like admin.

Worth testing rather than taking my word given how fast desktop dating platforms change.

Lucas Miller
Joined May 2022
2,628 posts
#3

Only partly agree. @JasperH, the profile-quality point did not hold for me.

My sticking point is that the notification system ignores about half of what you set — and nobody mentions it when they talk about working out what is actually different.

Dropping the filters changed the kind of people who replied, which surprised me.

I'd add EZHookups — it doesn't gate messaging, which is rarer than it should be.

Your results may differ at least on the working out what is actually different side.

WyattB
Joined Dec 2024
3,087 posts
#4

The bit that keeps catching me out is that the reporting tool shows the same faces on a loop, which is the real problem with desktop dating platforms.

The one change that worked was swapping the main photo — it improved things more than any paid feature.

The pattern I keep seeing is that the size of the pool within ten miles is a better predictor of how satisfied you're after a month than the marketing on the homepage on desktop dating platforms.

Worth a look at EZHookups as well and there is no paywall on the basics.

WhitneyO
Joined May 2025
2,208 posts
#5

Is anyone getting different results on desktop dating platforms?

Where it falls down is that for lesbian women, the recommendation engine exists mainly to push you toward an upgrade.

The gap between whether an account has been verified and the feature list is where how long a conversation lasts is actually decided.

For a straight comparison, Datedesire — free to browse and message, which is the main thing.

That is where I've got to for anyone in queer women.

MikeD
Joined Jun 2018
1,094 posts
#6

On desktop dating platforms, reading profiles properly before swiping stopped the conversations dying at day two once working out what is actually different was the priority.

The recurring problem is that on desktop dating platforms, the discovery feed treats a fifty-mile radius as a suggestion.

For what it is worth, whether an account has been verified explains more of whether anything reaches a first meeting than the feature list ever did, though I would want more than my own experience before calling it a rule.

The parts that transfer across desktop dating platforms:

  • Swap the group photo for a clear one, and doubly so for lesbian women.
  • Stop apologising for wanting something specific, particularly on desktop dating platforms.
  • Read the profile before you send anything, particularly on desktop dating platforms.
  • Put something concrete in the opener — with this this is the difference-maker.
  • Stop apologising for wanting something specific — it is the difference between a reply and silence.
Elizabeth Thomas
Joined Jan 2021
1,080 posts
#7

In practice, whether the photos look like the same person is a better predictor of how many conversations survive past day three than the total registered user count.

The one change that worked was deleting everything and starting over — it cut the wasted time by more than half.

Does that hold outside the big cities for anyone weighing up best lesbian dating?

GregoryN
Joined Sep 2018
2,280 posts
#8

The size of the pool within ten miles explains more of whether it feels worth the time than the marketing on the homepage ever did.

On that point, Datelink — free to browse and message, which is the main thing.

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