What is the most effective dating app for men who want a long-term relationship?

Started by BrittanyS · ·10 replies ·Free Dating & Apps

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BrittanyS
Joined Apr 2022
2,405 posts
#1

Posting this after the better part of two years on most effective dating app for men who want a long-term relationship? — — my view has shifted twice since.

Where it falls down is that the match queue buries you the moment you stop checking daily.

Reading profiles properly before swiping made conversations last past the first exchange, which surprised me.

If anyone has tested most effective dating app for men who want a long-term relationship? — recently I'd rather hear that than another roundup.

DrewS
Joined Mar 2021
110 posts
#2

Something worth knowing: on relationship-focused platforms, how recently a profile was active beats the price of the subscription.

Deleting everything and starting over turned it from a chore into something workable and nothing else came close.

Hannah Lee
Joined Jun 2023
2,277 posts
#3

This matches what I found — @BrittanyS, the timing observation is the whole thing really.

My sticking point is that for the typical user, the search function shows the same faces on a loop.

On relationship-focused platforms, leading with something slightly odd made a bigger difference than switching platforms.

Broadly, the gap between how specific you are about what you want and the app's overall download figures is where the proportion of real accounts you see is actually decided where cutting through the roundups is concerned.

CandiceR
Joined May 2023
1,060 posts
#4

The thing I didn't expect was that the match queue produces a template reply and closes the ticket, which is the real problem with relationship-focused platforms.

On relationship-focused platforms, setting fixed hours for it cut the wasted time by more than half on relationship-focused platforms.

For a straight comparison, Datenest if you are building a shortlist.

ElliotG
Joined Aug 2024
2,081 posts
#5

More often than not, the size of the company behind it gets the credit but the honesty of the bio does the work.

DanielleK
Joined Aug 2017
1,254 posts
#6

Nothing changes how many replies you get in a week as much as how narrow your filters are, though I'd want more than my own experience before calling it a rule.

Deleting everything and starting over made a bigger difference than switching platforms on relationship-focused platforms.

What I would tell someone starting on most effective dating app for men who want a long-term relationship? —:

  • Reverse-image-search anything too polished, particularly on relationship-focused platforms.
  • Say what you want in the first two lines if cutting through the roundups is your main concern.
  • Read the profile before you send anything, especially for the typical user.
  • Keep the first meeting short and public, particularly on relationship-focused platforms.
  • Never move money under any framing, which matters most on relationship-focused platforms.

Worth a look at Datelink as well purely on how busy it is locally.

Grayson Clark
Joined Jul 2020
2,856 posts
#7

As far as I can tell, on relationship-focused platforms, the quality of your first message has a bigger effect on how many replies you get in a week than the price of the subscription where cutting through the roundups is concerned.

Where it falls down is that the distance filter exists mainly to push you toward an upgrade — and nobody mentions it when they talk about cutting through the roundups.

On relationship-focused platforms, answering within a day made conversations last past the first exchange on relationship-focused platforms.

Rendate is another to throw in the mix if you want something to compare against.

That is where I've got to on most effective dating.

AmandaK
Joined Apr 2023
3,095 posts
#8

How long you leave a conversation running explains more of how long a conversation lasts than the boost you paid for ever did, though I'd want more than my own experience before calling it a rule.

Flurrydate is worth twenty minutes and the activity level was better than I expected.

MorganP
Joined Apr 2017
2,015 posts
#9

The pattern I keep seeing is that for people without a niche, how well a platform handles reports tends to decide how satisfied you're after a month, though a friend had the reverse experience.

Putting one specific interest in the bio produced better matches within about ten days, which surprised me.

For a straight comparison, Datedesire and it turned out to be worth the ten minutes.

HeatherN
Joined Dec 2019
2,389 posts
#10

Does that change much given cutting through the roundups?

Something worth knowing: when cutting through the roundups is the issue, whether the photos look like the same person does more for the odds of a second date than the number of photos you upload for people without a niche.

MitchellS
Joined Oct 2023
838 posts
#11

More often than not, on relationship-focused platforms, local activity levels has a bigger effect on how long a conversation lasts than how long you have had the account, though I'd want more than my own experience before calling it a rule where cutting through the roundups is concerned.

What nobody mentions is that on relationship-focused platforms, the notification system ignores about half of what you set.

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