Posting this after half a year on how to find bbw singles who are confident? — niche & community dating — most of what I had read didn't hold up.
My sticking point is that the profile editor makes it impossible to tell live accounts from dead ones.
Something worth knowing: the gap between how recently a profile was active and the feature list is where how many conversations survive past day three is actually decided on phone-first platforms.
One honest account of how to find beats ten listicles.
Lines up with mine — @christopher93, the profile-quality point is spot on.
As far as I can tell, on phone-first platforms, whether an account has been verified predicts the odds of a second date better than which tier you are on where the which-one question is concerned.
The recurring problem is that the onboarding boost collapses once you move outside a major city, which is the real problem with phone-first platforms.
Picking one platform and sticking with it improved things more than any paid feature with this whole area.
I have had a decent run on Souldate if you are building a shortlist.
Saying plainly what I was not after turned it from a chore into something workable and nothing else came close.
Something worth knowing: how long you leave a conversation running makes more difference than the size of the company behind it for plus-size daters, but that is one person with one set of results.
For plus-size users, the shortlist:
Tell a friend where you're going if the which-one question is your main concern.
Give a platform three weeks before judging it, especially for plus-size daters.
Keep work and socials out of it early on if the which-one question is your main concern.
Hope some of that helps at least on the the which-one question side.
Strongly agree — @Zachary Cook, the remark about filters is spot on.
As far as I can tell, how consistently you show up explains more of how many conversations survive past day three than the total registered user count ever did, which may say more about how I use them.
The one change that worked was cutting the match list right down — it got three actual meetings out of six weeks once the which-one question was the priority.
The bit that keeps catching me out is that the block function rewards constant activity rather than genuine interest, which is the real problem with phone-first platforms.
Picking one platform and sticking with it cut the wasted time by more than half and nothing else came close once the which-one question was the priority.
The pattern I keep seeing is that the response you give to a low-effort opener is a better predictor of whether it feels worth the time than the boost you paid for.
Open to being wrong on the this question.
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