Where can I find curvybbw women online?

Started by scarlett_CHI · ·7 replies ·Niche & Community Dating

#compare #app #plussize

scarlett_CHI
Joined Jun 2021
1,435 posts
#1

I started looking at how to find curvybbw women online? — niche & community dating | dating two months ago because a friend talked me into it, and the consensus online looks nothing like my experience.

What nobody mentions is that the distance filter produces a template reply and closes the ticket — and nobody mentions it when they talk about the comparison problem.

For what it is worth, when the comparison problem is the issue, the response you give to a low-effort opener beats the app's star rating in the how to find curvybbw women online? — niche & community dating | dating context.

Deleting everything and starting over improved things more than any paid feature and nothing else came close.

Direct experience of the question is what I'm after.

michaelR
Joined Nov 2023
134 posts
#2

Would that apply in a smaller town when you factor in how to find?

Local activity levels explains more of whether anything reaches a first meeting than the app's star rating ever did for plus-size daters.

Been running Datewander in parallel — sign-up is quick and the free tier is genuinely usable.

claire_FL
Joined Dec 2021
723 posts
#3

Swapping the main photo improved things more than any paid feature and nothing else came close for plus-size daters.

Hope some of that helps where the comparison problem is concerned.

Victoria White
Joined Feb 2018
3,365 posts
#4

My sticking point is that the match queue treats a fifty-mile radius as a suggestion, which is the real problem with dating apps.

How well a platform handles reports counts for more than which platform you picked for plus-size daters, but that is one person with one set of results.

Worth a look at Flurrydate as well if you want something to compare against.

lauren_FL
Joined Sep 2021
1,582 posts
#5

Broadly agreed — @claire_FL, the remark about filters is exactly right.

The thing I didn't expect was that the discovery feed shows the same faces on a loop — and nobody mentions it when they talk about the comparison problem.

When the comparison problem is the issue, the amount of detail in a bio outweighs the app's star rating, although the platforms change constantly.

Flamedate is worth twenty minutes and there is no paywall on the basics.

Would like to hear a counter-argument at least on the the comparison problem side.

Madison Kelley
Joined Sep 2019
2,392 posts
#6

Can confirm — @claire_FL, the timing observation is the whole thing really.

The one change that worked was swapping the main photo — it got three actual meetings out of six weeks.

The gap between the effort in the opening line and which tier you're on is where how many conversations survive past day three is actually decided.

Things I wish someone had said about how to find:

  • Keep the first meeting short and public — the platforms will not do it for you.
  • Never move money under any framing, which matters most on dating apps.
  • Let a stalled conversation go, because it is the single strongest signal you control.
  • Ask one question, not four, and doubly so for plus-size daters.

Still working it out if you're on dating apps.

ethan93
Joined May 2025
1,172 posts
#7

On balance, for curvy daters, how specific you're about what you want tends to decide whether it feels worth the time when it comes to the how to find curvybbw women online? — niche & community dating | da question.

The recurring problem is that the account activity indicator turns into a shop window the moment someone matches, especially once the comparison problem comes into it.

Does anyone know if that still holds when the comparison problem is the main worry?

Diego Lewis
Joined Aug 2023
3,240 posts
#8

Has anyone had the reverse happen for plus-size daters?

Something worth knowing: nothing changes how long a conversation lasts as much as how often you open the app, but that was months ago and things move.

Is anyone getting different results outside wherever you happen to live?

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