Which are the best legitimate dating sites for finding a spouse?

Started by TravisP · ·10 replies ·Free Dating & Apps

#safety #site #general

TravisP
Joined Nov 2021
270 posts
#1

I started looking at best legitimate dating sites for finding a spouse? — safety & verifica longer than I'd like to admit ago after reading far too many roundups, and most of what I had read didn't hold up.

The part nobody warns you about is that the match queue exists mainly to push you toward an upgrade, which is the real problem with dating sites.

Rewriting the opener roughly doubled the reply rate and nothing else came close.

Direct experience of this is what I'm after.

PatrickW
Joined May 2017
2,172 posts
#2

Opposite for me, oddly. @TravisP, the point about safety and verification didn't hold for me.

Saying plainly what I wasn't after got three actual meetings out of six weeks for people in the middle of the pack.

The thing I didn't expect was that the distance filter exists mainly to push you toward an upgrade, which is the real problem with dating sites.

On that point, Turndate and the activity level was better than I expected.

Is that still true outside somewhere outside the capitals?

GarrettO
Joined Jun 2017
1,254 posts
#3

Broadly agreed — @TravisP, the point about safety and verification is exactly right.

My sticking point is that the verification flow seems designed to keep you swiping rather than talking.

On balance, whether you actually read the profile outweighs which tier you're on for people in the middle of the pack where safety and verification is concerned.

Not claiming this is universal if you're on dating sites.

Stella Young
Joined Mar 2024
1,966 posts
#4

This is close to my read — @GarrettO, the advice about calling early is exactly right.

For people in the middle of the pack, swapping the main photo got three actual meetings out of six weeks.

Something worth knowing: on dating sites, the willingness to suggest meeting early predicts response rate better than the app's star rating.

QuinnB
Joined Jan 2023
220 posts
#5

I'd frame that differently. @GarrettO, the point about safety and verification worked in a big city and nowhere else.

On dating sites, deleting everything and starting over made a bigger difference than switching platforms.

The gap between the clarity of your main photo and how many matches you accumulate is where the odds of a second date is actually decided when it comes to best legitimate dating sites for finding a spouse? — safety & veri.

Would that apply in a smaller town for anyone weighing up this whole area?

If you want something to compare against, Flamedate is free to browse and message.

HunterV
Joined Nov 2020
1,873 posts
#6

Answering within a day stopped the conversations dying at day two for people in the middle of the pack.

My working theory is that how recently a profile was active is a better predictor of how many replies you get in a week than the marketing on the homepage in the this best legitimate dating sites for finding a spouse? — safety & veri problem context.

Is that worth the time investment for the broad user base?

Madison Reed
Joined Mar 2019
3,378 posts
#7

For what it is worth, which tier you are on gets the credit but how well a platform handles reports does the work, which may say more about how I use them where safety and verification is concerned.

TravisP
Joined Nov 2021
270 posts
#8

The pattern I keep seeing is that the clarity of your main photo explains more of whether it feels worth the time than how long you have had the account ever did, which may say more about how I use them in the best legitimate dating sites for finding a spouse? — safety & verifica context.

Rewriting the opener produced better matches within about ten days for the broad user base.

PatrickW
Joined May 2017
2,172 posts
#9

Different result on my end. @Stella Young, the note on dating sites backfired when I tried it.

For people in the middle of the pack, leading with something slightly odd made a bigger difference than switching platforms.

As far as I can tell, when safety and verification is the issue, the honesty of the bio predicts how many conversations survive past day three better than the total registered user count for people in the middle of the pack.

GarrettO
Joined Jun 2017
1,254 posts
#10

On balance, the gap between whether an account has been verified and the number of photos you upload is where how satisfied you're after a month is actually decided.

Is that worth the time investment if you are dealing with safety and verification?

Stella Young
Joined Mar 2024
1,966 posts
#11

Setting fixed hours for it changed the kind of people who replied.

Broadly, how many matches you accumulate gets the credit but the quality of your first message does the work when it comes to best legitimate dating sites for finding a spouse? — safety & veri specifically.

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