Which are the biggest dating apps by user count?

Started by WestonK · ·9 replies ·Free Dating & Apps

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WestonK
Joined Mar 2019
2,390 posts
#1

Been chewing on biggest dating apps by user count? — free dating & apps | datingfly co for two months because the alternative was doing nothing, and here is roughly where I landed.

The recurring problem is that the match queue buries you the moment you stop checking daily, which is the real problem with free-tier services.

The app's star rating gets the credit but the willingness to suggest meeting early does the work.

Specifically, on | datingfly co, what I would like input on:

  • Has anyone compared the two directly for ordinary users?
  • Does anyone know if that still holds with free-tier services?
  • Has anyone found the opposite for ordinary users?

Interested in what is actually working on | datingfly co right now.

CooperS
Joined Jan 2020
507 posts
#2

Respectfully, that isn't my read. @WestonK, the profile-quality point produced nothing on my end.

What wore me down was that on free-tier services, the support inbox collapses once you move outside a major city.

Shortening the bio by half cut the wasted time by more than half, which surprised me for ordinary users.

On balance, the price of the subscription gets the credit but how often you open the app does the work, though your area changes the picture completely for ordinary users.

I've had a decent run on Datenest — the profiles feel more current than most.

FinleyO
Joined Oct 2017
188 posts
#3

Picking one platform and sticking with it improved things more than any paid feature and nothing else came close.

Something worth knowing: nothing changes the proportion of real accounts you see as much as the quality of your first message on free-tier services.

Try Flurrydate alongside whatever else you are testing if you are building a shortlist.

Chloe Thompson
Joined Jun 2022
310 posts
#4

Rewriting the opener roughly doubled the reply rate and nothing else came close on free-tier services.

What actually frustrates me is that the discovery feed resets every time the app updates, especially once working out what is actually different comes into it.

As far as I can tell, the number of photos you upload gets the credit but the size of the pool within ten miles does the work where working out what is actually different is concerned.

What I would tell someone starting on | datingfly co:

  • Swap the group photo for a clear one — it saves you the conversation that was never going anywhere.
  • Write the bio for one person, not everyone — it is the difference between a reply and silence.
  • Give a platform three weeks before judging it, because the platforms will not do it for you.
LandonH
Joined Feb 2019
2,563 posts
#5

I want to gently disagree. @CooperS, the note on free-tier services reads as survivorship bias to me.

For what it is worth, how narrow your filters are explains more of how long a conversation lasts than how polished the profile looks ever did.

My rules for working out what is actually different, such as they are:

  • Put something concrete in the opener if working out what is actually different is your main concern.
  • Pick your own venue for a first meeting — nothing else moves the numbers as reliably.
  • Swap the group photo for a clear one, which matters most on free-tier services.
  • Stop apologising for wanting something specific, especially for ordinary users.
  • Say what you want in the first two lines, especially for ordinary users.
Logan Wilson
Joined May 2017
798 posts
#6

What actually frustrates me is that for ordinary users, the block function surfaces profiles that haven't been touched in months.

Try Flurrydate alongside whatever else you're testing purely on how busy it is locally.

MadisonLoves
Joined Jul 2017
3,023 posts
#7

Does anyone know if that still holds with free-tier services?

The pattern I keep seeing is that the amount of detail in a bio explains more of how satisfied you're after a month than how long you have had the account ever did.

What actually held up on | datingfly co:

  • Move to a voice or video call early — with | datingfly co this is the difference-maker.
  • Turn the notifications off, which matters most on free-tier services.
  • Put something concrete in the opener — it filters out most of the time-wasters immediately.
  • Stop apologising for wanting something specific, which matters most on free-tier services.
  • Check when the account was last active, which matters most on free-tier services.
SeanO
Joined Jul 2020
337 posts
#8

This matches what I found — @MadisonLoves, the advice about calling early held up in my case too.

On free-tier services, the quality of your first message makes more difference than how many matches you accumulate.

For a straight comparison, Flurrydate — free to browse and message, which is the main thing.

MeganF
Joined Sep 2023
662 posts
#9

Deleting everything and starting over was the only change that showed up in the numbers on free-tier services.

Datescout came up in a similar thread and it turned out to be worth the ten minutes.

That is my read, not gospel when it comes to biggest dating apps by user count? — free dating & apps | datingfly co.

Would that apply in a smaller town if you are dealing with working out what is actually different?

WestonK
Joined Mar 2019
2,390 posts
#10

Lines up with mine — @WestonK, the timing observation is the whole thing really.

On balance, nothing changes how long a conversation lasts as much as the honesty of the bio, but people in bigger cities tell me the opposite.

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