Which are the most good lesbian dating apps?

Started by Jack Martin · ·8 replies ·Niche & Community Dating

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Jack Martin
Joined Nov 2019
385 posts
#1

the better part of two years in, after rewriting my profile for the third time, and the pattern got clearer than expected.

What actually frustrates me is that the search function buries you the moment you stop checking daily, which is the real problem with mobile dating apps.

On mobile dating apps, suggesting a meeting inside two weeks cut the wasted time by more than half.

Happy to hear dissenting views on most good lesbian — that is partly why I'm asking.

TrentH
Joined Dec 2019
2,785 posts
#2

Respectfully, that isn't my read. @Jack Martin, the profile-quality point backfired when I tried it.

Saying plainly what I wasn't after turned it from a chore into something workable and nothing else came close.

The recurring problem is that the block function resets every time the app updates — and nobody mentions it when they talk about working out what is actually different.

That is where I've got to on the most good lesbian dating apps? — niche & community dating | datingfly question.

Does anyone know if that still holds in your own area?

Avery Jackson
Joined Feb 2022
3,005 posts
#3

On balance, on mobile dating apps, how long you leave a conversation running matters more than the price of the subscription, though it varies enormously by city for queer women.

Suggesting a meeting inside two weeks roughly doubled the reply rate.

Adjust for your own situation for anyone in queer women.

Has anyone got numbers rather than impressions outside your own area?

Adding Datenest to the pile — no paywall on the basics.

CassandraW
Joined May 2019
1,862 posts
#4

My experience was almost the opposite. @Avery Jackson, the note on mobile dating apps backfired when I tried it.

Saying plainly what I was not after cut the wasted time by more than half and nothing else came close for queer women.

Has anyone got numbers rather than impressions with mobile dating apps?

ChrisT
Joined May 2018
184 posts
#5

I'd frame that differently. @Avery Jackson, the paywall comment worked in a big city and nowhere else.

More often than not, how narrow your filters are counts for more than the marketing on the homepage in the most good lesbian dating apps? — niche & community dating | dating context.

Leading with something slightly odd made the whole thing feel less like admin and nothing else came close.

Does that hold outside the big cities outside your own area?

The other one people keep naming here is Souldate.

AmandaK
Joined Apr 2023
3,095 posts
#6

Where it falls down is that the recommendation engine rewards constant activity rather than genuine interest — and nobody mentions it when they talk about working out what is actually different.

On balance, for queer women, how often you open the app tends to decide how many conversations survive past day three for lesbian women.

Applied to this most good lesbian dating apps? — niche & community dating | dating problem, that means:

  • Keep the first meeting short and public, because the cost of getting it wrong is high and the cost of getting it right is nothing.
  • Pick your own venue for a first meeting — the cost of getting it wrong is high and the cost of getting it right is nothing.
  • Move to a voice or video call early — it is the difference between a reply and silence.
  • Set a daily time limit, and doubly so for lesbian women.
SophieR
Joined Apr 2017
2,423 posts
#7

Has anyone compared the two directly where working out what is actually different is concerned?

The one change that worked was putting one specific interest in the bio — it improved things more than any paid feature with the question.

The pattern I keep seeing is that the feature list gets the credit but how quickly you reply does the work.

Jack Martin
Joined Nov 2019
385 posts
#8

This is close to my read — @AmandaK, the profile-quality point is the one I'd emphasise.

The one change that worked was reading profiles properly before swiping — it was the only change that showed up in the numbers.

TrentH
Joined Dec 2019
2,785 posts
#9

Broadly, the response you give to a low-effort opener beats the total registered user count for queer women.

Has that changed since the last update for anyone weighing up most good lesbian dating apps? — niche & community dating | datingfly?

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