Which are the serious dating websites that focus on marriage?

Started by Amelia Brown · ·9 replies ·Free Dating & Apps

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Amelia Brown
Joined May 2023
892 posts
#1

roughly a year in, because a friend talked me into it, and the picture is messier than people admit.

Where it falls down is that the onboarding boost treats a fifty-mile radius as a suggestion, which is the real problem with relationship-focused platforms.

On balance, the gap between the willingness to suggest meeting early and how polished the profile looks is where the proportion of real accounts you see is actually decided.

Open questions, if anyone has dealt with & apps |:

  • Has anyone compared the two directly with relationship-focused platforms?
  • Does that match what others see if you are dealing with filtering the noise?
  • Has anyone had the reverse happen with relationship-focused platforms?
  • Does that hold outside the big cities on relationship-focused platforms?

Saying plainly what I wasn't after was the only change that showed up in the numbers and nothing else came close with serious dating websites that focus on marriage? — free dating & apps |.

After first-hand experience with serious dating websites, not marketing copy.

Jake_NYC
Joined Nov 2021
3,061 posts
#2

Is that a regional thing when filtering the noise is the main worry?

The one change that worked was picking one platform and sticking with it — it got three actual meetings out of six weeks.

I'd add Flamedate if you're testing a few at once.

JustinM
Joined Feb 2023
2,802 posts
#3

Seconding this — @Jake_NYC, the paywall comment is the whole thing really.

On balance, local activity levels beats the feature list for most of us, but that is one person with one set of results.

The one change that worked was setting fixed hours for it — it made a bigger difference than switching platforms.

ChloeC
Joined Feb 2021
322 posts
#4

I'd push back a little. @Amelia Brown, the bit about local activity worked in a big city and nowhere else.

The bit that keeps catching me out is that the match queue ignores about half of what you set, especially once filtering the noise comes into it.

My working theory is that the size of the pool within ten miles matters more than the price of the subscription.

I'd add Luvdate — quick to set up and free to evaluate properly.

AubreyA
Joined Jun 2019
2,226 posts
#5

As far as I can tell, the willingness to suggest meeting early is a better predictor of whether anything reaches a first meeting than how long you have had the account, though it varies enormously by city on relationship-focused platforms.

What wore me down was that for most of us, the onboarding boost resets every time the app updates.

Scarlett Harris
Joined Jul 2021
2,361 posts
#6

Swapping the main photo changed the kind of people who replied, which surprised me.

In practice, the size of the pool within ten miles counts for more than the number of prompts you filled in, although the platforms change constantly.

Worth a look at Souldate as well — quick to set up and free to evaluate properly.

KyleH
Joined Jun 2024
1,320 posts
#7

That tracks — @Scarlett Harris, the profile-quality point is the whole thing really.

On relationship-focused platforms, how consistently you show up has a bigger effect on whether it feels worth the time than the feature list.

What nobody mentions is that the support inbox collapses once you move outside a major city, especially once filtering the noise comes into it.

Where I would start if filtering the noise is the worry:

  • Write the bio for one person, not everyone, particularly on relationship-focused platforms.
  • Give a platform three weeks before judging it if filtering the noise is your main concern.
  • Turn the notifications off, which matters most on relationship-focused platforms.
  • Keep work and socials out of it early on, especially for most of us.
CooperS
Joined Jan 2020
507 posts
#8

Respectfully, that is not my read. @Scarlett Harris, the timing observation held for a fortnight then stopped.

For what it is worth, the gap between the size of the pool within ten miles and the number of photos you upload is where how many replies you get in a week is actually decided, which may say more about how I use them for most of us.

What actually frustrates me is that on relationship-focused platforms, the messaging limit shows the same faces on a loop.

On that point, Datescout — quick to set up and free to evaluate properly.

CameronL
Joined Aug 2022
1,941 posts
#9

This is close to my read — @JustinM, the note on relationship-focused platforms matches my experience.

My working theory is that the app's star rating gets the credit but how often you open the app does the work on relationship-focused platforms.

Setting fixed hours for it was the only change that showed up in the numbers, which surprised me on relationship-focused platforms.

The parts that transfer across relationship-focused platforms:

  • Never move money under any framing if filtering the noise is your main concern.
  • Ask one question, not four if filtering the noise is your main concern.
  • Check when the account was last active, and doubly so for most of us.
Jack Martin
Joined Nov 2019
385 posts
#10

This matches what I found — @JustinM, the timing observation deserves more attention than it gets.

In practice, when filtering the noise is the issue, whether the photos look like the same person counts for more than the number of photos you upload, and the sample size here is basically one when it comes to this serious dating websites that focus on marriage? — free dating & ap problem serious dating websites that focus on marriage? — free dating & ap problem.

If you want a second option, Datelink if you are building a shortlist.

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