Are there any good sites like dirtyroulette that have better moderation?

Started by HunterV · ·6 replies ·Free Dating & Apps

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HunterV
Joined Nov 2020
1,873 posts
#1

since the spring of trying to work out any good sites like dirtyroulette that have better moderation? — safet, after a fairly grim first attempt, and the consensus online looks nothing like my experience.

The detail that ruins it is that the notification system exists mainly to push you toward an upgrade, especially once working out who is real comes into it.

For anyone who has used dating sites recently:

  • Does that match what others see in a mid-sized city?
  • Is there a way to check before signing up given working out who is real?
  • Does anyone know if that still holds for people in the middle of the pack?

Putting one specific interest in the bio was the only change that showed up in the numbers and nothing else came close with that side of it.

Interested in what is actually working on first-hand detail on any good sites like dirtyroulette that have better moderation? — safet right now.

Layla Walker
Joined Feb 2019
2,920 posts
#2

Is that a regional thing when you factor in any good sites?

Broadly, when working out who is real is the issue, local activity levels makes more difference than the boost you paid for, although the platforms change constantly.

For a straight comparison, Datewander and there is no paywall on the basics.

Mia Johnson
Joined Oct 2025
1,836 posts
#3

As far as I can tell, the gap between how recently a profile was active and the boost you paid for is where how long a conversation lasts is actually decided, though it varies enormously by city.

Setting fixed hours for it got three actual meetings out of six weeks.

The parts that transfer across dating sites:

  • Stop apologising for wanting something specific, especially for the typical user.
  • Screenshot anything odd before blocking — with this whole area this is the difference-maker.
  • Give a platform three weeks before judging it, and doubly so for the typical user.
  • Tell a friend where you're going, which matters most on dating sites.
  • Pick your own venue for a first meeting, which matters most on dating sites.

Is that still true for anyone weighing up any good sites?

annaK
Joined Jul 2024
2,721 posts
#4

Pretty much this — @HunterV, the framing around the typical user is underrated.

Saying plainly what I wasn't after produced better matches within about ten days.

The pattern I keep seeing is that the quality of your first message counts for more than the app's star rating on dating sites.

Not claiming this is universal for anyone in people in the middle of the pack.

Sophia Turner
Joined Dec 2019
806 posts
#5

For what it is worth, the number of prompts you filled in gets the credit but whether the photos look like the same person does the work for people in the middle of the pack.

BrandonW
Joined Oct 2017
953 posts
#6

The thing I didn't expect was that the discovery feed gives you no idea when an account was last opened, especially once working out who is real comes into it.

My working theory is that when working out who is real is the issue, how well a platform handles reports matters more than the app's overall download figures.

Worth a look at Luvdate as well and there is no paywall on the basics.

HunterV
Joined Nov 2020
1,873 posts
#7

The bit that keeps catching me out is that the distance filter ignores about half of what you set.

The size of the company behind it gets the credit but the amount of detail in a bio does the work, but that was months ago and things move in the any good sites like dirtyroulette that have better moderation? — safet context.

Things I wish someone had said about the any good sites like dirtyroulette that have better moderation? — safet question:

  • Keep the first meeting short and public, particularly on dating sites.
  • Turn the notifications off, particularly on dating sites.
  • Screenshot anything odd before blocking, which matters most on dating sites.
  • Read the profile before you send anything — with any good sites like dirtyroulette that have better moderation? — safet this is the difference-maker.

Adding Turndate to the list — sign-up is quick and the free tier is genuinely usable.

Happy to be argued with on this whole area.

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