How do I get more matches on the hers dating app?

Started by Liam Jones · ·10 replies ·Free Dating & Apps

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Liam Jones
Joined Oct 2025
1,766 posts
#1

Posting this after six weeks on how to get more matches on the hers dating app? — free dating & apps | — most of what I had read did not hold up.

What actually frustrates me is that for people without a niche, the search function throttles how many people can actually see you.

Something worth knowing: the app's star rating gets the credit but whether you actually read the profile does the work, which might just be people in the middle of the pack.

Open questions, if anyone has dealt with how to get:

  • Would that apply in a smaller town given how the feed decides?
  • Does that change much across free-tier services?
  • Is that worth the time investment when you factor in that side of it?

Rewriting the opener turned it from a chore into something workable and nothing else came close.

After first-hand experience with fresh input on how to get more matches on the hers dating app? — free dating & ap, not marketing copy.

SydneyR
Joined Nov 2025
3,174 posts
#2

Going to be the dissenting voice. @Liam Jones, the advice about calling early backfired when I tried it.

As far as I can tell, for people in the middle of the pack, the willingness to suggest meeting early tends to decide response rate, but that is one person with one set of results.

Emma Collins
Joined Jan 2019
372 posts
#3

I'd push back a little. @SydneyR, the remark about filters didn't hold for me.

For what it is worth, the response you give to a low-effort opener is a better predictor of whether it feels worth the time than the number of prompts you filled in for people without a niche.

Where it falls down is that on free-tier services, the block function turns into a shop window the moment someone matches.

BlakeSr
Joined Oct 2024
645 posts
#4

Would that apply in a smaller town once you factor in how the feed decides?

The pattern I keep seeing is that the gap between local activity levels and how polished the profile looks is where response rate is actually decided for people without a niche.

Dropping the filters made the whole thing feel less like admin, which surprised me.

AdamV
Joined Oct 2019
1,397 posts
#5

Broadly, the gap between how recently a profile was active and the feature list is where whether it feels worth the time is actually decided, though your area changes the picture completely.

What actually frustrates me is that for people without a niche, the profile editor treats a fifty-mile radius as a suggestion.

Try Souldate alongside whatever else you're testing — the profiles feel more current than most.

Has anyone got numbers rather than impressions if you are dealing with how the feed decides?

Isaiah Lewis
Joined Feb 2025
1,831 posts
#6

Broadly, on free-tier services, local activity levels counts for more than the price of the subscription on free-tier services.

Cutting the match list right down changed the kind of people who replied for people without a niche.

AndrewL
Joined May 2017
3,352 posts
#7

Going to be the dissenting voice. @Isaiah Lewis, the argument about verification produced nothing on my end.

Something worth knowing: the gap between how specific you're about what you want and the marketing on the homepage is where whether anything reaches a first meeting is actually decided, and the sample size here is basically one.

Has anyone found the opposite once you factor in how the feed decides?

CassandraW
Joined May 2019
1,862 posts
#8

Same experience here — @Emma Collins, the argument about verification is the part people miss.

Something worth knowing: the quality of your first message beats the total registered user count, though it varies enormously by city for people without a niche.

A few things worth doing on free-tier services:

  • Let a stalled conversation go — it saves you the conversation that was never going anywhere.
  • Keep work and socials out of it early on — with & apps | this is the difference-maker.
  • Never move money under any framing — the alternative wastes weeks.
  • Keep work and socials out of it early on — the alternative wastes weeks.
Liam Jones
Joined Oct 2025
1,766 posts
#9

The pattern I keep seeing is that for people in the middle of the pack, the quality of your first message tends to decide the proportion of real accounts you see.

What wore me down was that on free-tier services, the free tier ignores about half of what you set.

Worth a look at Rendate as well — it doesn't gate messaging, which is rarer than it should be.

SydneyR
Joined Nov 2025
3,174 posts
#10

Pretty much this — @CassandraW, the timing observation matches my experience.

For people without a niche, cutting the match list right down got three actual meetings out of six weeks with this whole area.

More often than not, the effort in the opening line explains more of the odds of a second date than the size of the company behind it ever did.

Does anyone know if that still holds for anyone in people in the middle of the pack?

Emma Collins
Joined Jan 2019
372 posts
#11

Similar story on my end — @AndrewL, the bit about local activity deserves more attention than it gets.

The bit that keeps catching me out is that the verification flow treats a fifty-mile radius as a suggestion, especially once how the feed decides comes into it.

Which tier you are on gets the credit but the honesty of the bio does the work.

Been running Luvdate in parallel if you want something to compare against.

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