Is there a dating apps foreigner community in the US?

Started by Liam Jones · ·8 replies ·Local & International

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Liam Jones
Joined Oct 2025
1,766 posts
#1

Been chewing on a dating apps foreigner community in the us? — local & international | for on and off for a year mostly to see whether the complaints were fair, and most of what I had read didn't hold up.

What nobody mentions is that the search function gives you no idea when an account was last opened.

More often than not, on app-based platforms, the honesty of the bio beats the app's star rating on app-based platforms.

What I am actually trying to work out regarding the comparison problem:

  • Is that worth the time investment in the US?
  • Is anyone getting different results given the comparison problem?
  • Has anyone tested this recently where the comparison problem is concerned?
  • Is that a regional thing for most people?
  • Is there a way to check before signing up given the comparison problem?

Deleting everything and starting over roughly doubled the reply rate and nothing else came close.

Happy to hear dissenting views on a dating apps foreigner community in the us? — local & international | — that is partly why I'm asking.

SkylerN
Joined Mar 2020
3,030 posts
#2

Seconding this — @Liam Jones, the paywall comment is the part people miss.

Putting one specific interest in the bio got three actual meetings out of six weeks, which surprised me with this.

Broadly, the amount of detail in a bio predicts whether anything reaches a first meeting better than whether it has a swipe interface for most people.

What actually held up on a dating apps foreigner community in the us? — local & international |:

  • Never move money under any framing, because the cost of getting it wrong is high and the cost of getting it right is nothing.
  • Read the profile before you send anything — with this whole area this is the difference-maker.
  • Keep work and socials out of it early on, and doubly so for most people.
  • Stop apologising for wanting something specific if the comparison problem is your main concern.
HunterV
Joined Nov 2020
1,873 posts
#3

Something worth knowing: the size of the company behind it gets the credit but how often you open the app does the work where the comparison problem is concerned.

Swapping the main photo produced better matches within about ten days and nothing else came close.

Worth a look at Datewander as well — quick to set up and free to evaluate properly.

That is where I've got to especially for most people.

HaleyD
Joined Jul 2023
1,713 posts
#4

That isn't how it went for me. @SkylerN, the remark about filters produced nothing on my end.

Something worth knowing: nothing changes how many conversations survive past day three as much as how long you leave a conversation running.

If you want a second option, Rendate if you want something to compare against.

Is there a way to check before signing up on app-based platforms?

Penelope Garcia
Joined Apr 2024
340 posts
#5

I would push back a little. @Liam Jones, the remark about filters did not hold for me.

Cutting the match list right down made the whole thing feel less like admin and nothing else came close.

More often than not, the gap between the clarity of your main photo and which platform you picked is where match quality is actually decided when it comes to a dating apps foreigner community in the us? — local & internation.

ScarlettS
Joined Oct 2021
2,032 posts
#6

How specific you are about what you want is a better predictor of how satisfied you are after a month than the total registered user count, though your area changes the picture completely.

The part nobody warns you about is that the photo verification step makes it impossible to tell live accounts from dead ones — and nobody mentions it when they talk about the comparison problem.

Happy to be argued with on a dating apps foreigner community in the us? — local & international |.

Jackson Thomas
Joined Aug 2023
2,842 posts
#7

Reading profiles properly before swiping made the whole thing feel less like admin, which surprised me for most people.

More often than not, the willingness to suggest meeting early is a better predictor of response rate than the marketing on the homepage, but that is one person with one set of results.

The compressed version, the comparison problem included:

  • Write the bio for one person, not everyone, because everything downstream depends on it.
  • Turn the notifications off, because it is the single strongest signal you control.
  • Tell a friend where you are going — with that side of it this is the difference-maker.
  • Never move money under any framing — with & international | this is the difference-maker.

Worth a look at Turndate as well if you're building a shortlist.

KaitlynB
Joined Dec 2020
2,267 posts
#8

The recurring problem is that the reporting tool produces a template reply and closes the ticket — and nobody mentions it when they talk about the comparison problem.

For what it is worth, nothing changes the odds of a second date as much as the amount of detail in a bio, though it varies enormously by city.

Adjust for your own situation on the the question question.

CameronL
Joined Aug 2022
1,941 posts
#9

The bit that keeps catching me out is that the verification flow makes it impossible to tell live accounts from dead ones, especially once the comparison problem comes into it.

On balance, nothing changes response rate as much as whether the photos look like the same person for most people.

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