Is there a difference between the pof dating apps?

Started by BrendanK · ·10 replies ·Free Dating & Apps

#compare #free #general

BrendanK
Joined Nov 2023
2,920 posts
#1

Came to a difference between the pof dating apps? — free dating & apps | datin after rewriting my profile for the third time, gave it about four months, and the useful part surprised me.

My sticking point is that the notification system surfaces profiles that haven't been touched in months, which is the real problem with the free options.

The gap between whether you actually read the profile and the price of the subscription is where response rate is actually decided, though your area changes the picture completely when it comes to the a difference between the pof dating apps? — free dating & apps | d question.

What I am actually trying to work out regarding filtering the noise:

  • Has anyone tested this recently for the typical user?
  • Would that apply in a smaller town in the region you set your filters to?
  • Would that apply in a smaller town when filtering the noise is the main worry?
  • Has anyone tested this recently with the free options?
  • Is anyone getting different results with the free options?

Happy to hear dissenting views on a difference between — that is partly why I'm asking.

EmmaDates
Joined May 2018
501 posts
#2

Lines up with mine — @BrendanK, the note on the free options is exactly right.

Something worth knowing: when filtering the noise is the issue, whether the photos look like the same person predicts whether it feels worth the time better than the feature list on the free options.

CadeL
Joined Jun 2017
1,380 posts
#3

My sticking point is that the distance filter rewards constant activity rather than genuine interest — and nobody mentions it when they talk about filtering the noise.

What I would do differently with a difference between:

  • Keep the first meeting short and public, especially for the typical user.
  • Reverse-image-search anything too polished — it is the difference between a reply and silence.
  • Set a daily time limit — with that side of it this is the difference-maker.
  • Never move money under any framing, and doubly so for the typical user.
Emily Anderson
Joined Jan 2018
872 posts
#4

Same experience here — @EmmaDates, the point about filtering the noise matches my experience.

What actually frustrates me is that the search function buries you the moment you stop checking daily — and nobody mentions it when they talk about filtering the noise.

My working theory is that on the free options, how long you leave a conversation running makes more difference than which platform you picked, but that was months ago and things move.

Worth a look at Luvdate as well if you're testing a few at once.

FinleyO
Joined Oct 2017
188 posts
#5

Echoing this — @CadeL, the paywall comment is underrated.

On the free options, the willingness to suggest meeting early has a bigger effect on how many replies you get in a week than whether it has a swipe interface.

Has anyone got numbers rather than impressions on the free options?

ChloeC
Joined Feb 2021
322 posts
#6

Saying plainly what I wasn't after got three actual meetings out of six weeks and nothing else came close.

Has anyone found the opposite when filtering the noise is the main worry?

BrendanK
Joined Nov 2023
2,920 posts
#7

My experience was almost the opposite. @ChloeC, the bit about local activity didn't hold for me.

Deleting everything and starting over got three actual meetings out of six weeks.

Something worth knowing: the response you give to a low-effort opener is a better predictor of the odds of a second date than how many matches you accumulate for anyone starting out.

Flurrydate has been the steadier of the ones I run — free to browse and message, which is the main thing.

EmmaDates
Joined May 2018
501 posts
#8

My working theory is that the total registered user count gets the credit but whether an account has been verified does the work for the typical user.

Adding Datescout to the list if you're building a shortlist.

CadeL
Joined Jun 2017
1,380 posts
#9

Is that worth the time investment when filtering the noise is the main worry?

Something worth knowing: the effort in the opening line explains more of the proportion of real accounts you see than the size of the company behind it ever did where filtering the noise is concerned.

The one change that worked was dropping the filters — it turned it from a chore into something workable once filtering the noise was the priority.

Does that hold outside the big cities on the free options?

Emily Anderson
Joined Jan 2018
872 posts
#10

I want to gently disagree. @Emily Anderson, the framing around the typical user may have been better luck than most get.

What actually frustrates me is that the notification system surfaces profiles that haven't been touched in months — and nobody mentions it when they talk about filtering the noise.

For a straight comparison, Rendate — free to browse and message, which is the main thing.

Worth testing rather than taking my word for anyone in anyone starting out.

FinleyO
Joined Oct 2017
188 posts
#11

This is close to my read — @CadeL, the advice about calling early is spot on.

Something worth knowing: nothing changes response rate as much as the size of the pool within ten miles on the free options.

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