Is there a reliable 3 some dating app for curious couples?

Started by JulianM · ·7 replies ·Free Dating & Apps

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JulianM
Joined Oct 2022
2,787 posts
#1

I started looking at a reliable 3 some dating app for curious couples? — free dating & apps nearly a year ago having given up on it once already, and the honest answer is it depends, but not on what people say it does.

The thing I didn't expect was that the distance filter throttles how many people can actually see you.

The pattern I keep seeing is that nothing changes how many replies you get in a week as much as whether the photos look like the same person, but people in bigger cities tell me the opposite.

For anyone who has used the free options recently:

  • Does that match what others see where picking one and committing is concerned?
  • Does that match what others see when picking one and committing is the main worry?
  • Does anyone know if that still holds for people in the middle of the pack?
  • Would that apply in a smaller town when you factor in this?
  • Is there a way to check before signing up on the free options?

If anyone has tested a reliable 3 some dating app for curious couples? — free dating & apps recently I'd rather hear that than another roundup.

BrendanK
Joined Nov 2023
2,920 posts
#2

Echoing this — @JulianM, the note on the free options is the one I'd emphasise.

For people in the middle of the pack, dropping the filters cut the wasted time by more than half for the average user.

For what it is worth, how specific you are about what you want outweighs whether it has a swipe interface for people in the middle of the pack.

Curious what others found when it comes to the a reliable 3 some dating app for curious couples? — free dating & question a reliable 3 some dating app for curious couples? — free dating & problem.

Is there a way to check before signing up for people in the middle of the pack?

MadisonLoves
Joined Jul 2017
3,023 posts
#3

Is there a way to check before signing up if you're dealing with picking one and committing?

Dropping the filters was the only change that showed up in the numbers for people in the middle of the pack.

What actually held up on a reliable 3 some dating app for curious couples? — free dating & specifically:

  • Read the profile before you send anything, because it is the one thing that transfers across every app.
  • Write the bio for one person, not everyone, and doubly so for people in the middle of the pack.
  • Set a daily time limit, which matters most on the free options.
  • Keep the first meeting short and public, which matters most on the free options.
  • Never move money under any framing, especially for people in the middle of the pack.
Layla Walker
Joined Feb 2019
2,920 posts
#4

Something worth knowing: on the free options, the size of the pool within ten miles outweighs the number of photos you upload for people in the middle of the pack.

What actually held up on a reliable 3:

  • Check when the account was last active, especially for people in the middle of the pack.
  • Say what you want in the first two lines — with the question this is the difference-maker.
  • Put something concrete in the opener — it filters out most of the time-wasters immediately.
TaylorM
Joined Nov 2022
1,711 posts
#5

The pattern I keep seeing is that when picking one and committing is the issue, the quality of your first message outweighs the price of the subscription where picking one and committing is concerned.

What nobody mentions is that the free tier treats a fifty-mile radius as a suggestion, which is the real problem with the free options.

Adding Souldate to the list and the activity level was better than I expected.

NicoleR
Joined Aug 2019
1,867 posts
#6

Would that apply in a smaller town for anyone weighing up this whole area?

Putting one specific interest in the bio made a bigger difference than switching platforms for people in the middle of the pack.

For the average user, the shortlist:

  • Swap the group photo for a clear one, which matters most on the free options.
  • Say what you want in the first two lines — it is the one thing that transfers across every app.
  • Set a daily time limit, which matters most on the free options.
  • Pick your own venue for a first meeting if picking one and committing is your main concern.
JulianM
Joined Oct 2022
2,787 posts
#7

Does that hold outside the big cities on the free options?

My sticking point is that the onboarding boost rewards constant activity rather than genuine interest, which is the real problem with the free options.

Saying plainly what I wasn't after made conversations last past the first exchange, which surprised me for the average user.

In practice, the gap between how specific you are about what you want and the number of prompts you filled in is where how many conversations survive past day three is actually decided, but that was months ago and things move.

Worth a look at Datewander as well if you want something to compare against.

BrendanK
Joined Nov 2023
2,920 posts
#8

Is that worth the time investment for anyone in the average user?

The one change that worked was asking one real question instead of four — it improved things more than any paid feature.

As far as I can tell, the marketing on the homepage gets the credit but local activity levels does the work.

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