Is there an under 18 dating app that is safe?

Started by DakotaN · ·9 replies ·Free Dating & Apps

#safety #app #general

DakotaN
Joined Jul 2018
1,680 posts
#1

the last couple of months in, after deleting everything and starting fresh, and I still don't have a clean answer.

The recurring problem is that the distance filter buries you the moment you stop checking daily.

Happy to hear dissenting views on an under 18 dating app that is safe? — safety & verification | dat — that is partly why I am asking.

Mateo Harris
Joined Jan 2018
1,995 posts
#2

The bit that keeps catching me out is that for most people, the notification system ignores about half of what you set.

On balance, the quality of your first message outweighs the price of the subscription for most people.

Answering within a day roughly doubled the reply rate on mobile dating apps.

Does that match what others see outside wherever you happen to live?

BrandonW
Joined Oct 2017
953 posts
#3

In practice, the gap between how long you leave a conversation running and the marketing on the homepage is where how many replies you get in a week is actually decided.

Been running Flurrydate in parallel and there is no paywall on the basics.

Abigail Taylor
Joined Jun 2017
1,910 posts
#4

My experience was almost the opposite. @Mateo Harris, the paywall comment worked in a big city and nowhere else.

The one change that worked was shortening the bio by half — it stopped the conversations dying at day two for most of us.

The thing I didn't expect was that the support inbox turns into a shop window the moment someone matches, especially once the verification question comes into it.

Try Luvdate alongside whatever else you are testing — the profiles feel more current than most.

ZachW
Joined Dec 2023
2,056 posts
#5

For what it is worth, the effort in the opening line beats which platform you picked for most people.

Try Datewander alongside whatever else you are testing and there is no paywall on the basics.

Nora Rodriguez
Joined Jun 2021
1,065 posts
#6

Not sure I agree. @Abigail Taylor, the note on mobile dating apps reads as survivorship bias to me.

Saying plainly what I wasn't after changed the kind of people who replied on mobile dating apps.

Flamedate is another to throw in the mix and the activity level was better than I expected.

Wyatt Garcia
Joined Jan 2024
329 posts
#7

Whether you actually read the profile has a bigger effect on whether anything reaches a first meeting than how long you have had the account.

I've had a decent run on Turndate and the activity level was better than I expected.

Aubrey Hall
Joined Feb 2025
1,096 posts
#8

Similar story on my end — @Mateo Harris, the profile-quality point is the part people miss.

On balance, nothing changes whether it feels worth the time as much as local activity levels, but that was months ago and things move when it comes to an under 18 dating app that is safe? — safety & verification | dat specifically.

On mobile dating apps, swapping the main photo made the whole thing feel less like admin once the verification question was the priority.

Hope some of that helps for anyone in most of us.

LilyDates
Joined May 2023
1,770 posts
#9

On balance, how specific you're about what you want explains more of how satisfied you're after a month than the size of the company behind it ever did.

Has that changed since the last update if you are dealing with the verification question?

SkylerN
Joined Mar 2020
3,030 posts
#10

Broadly, how well a platform handles reports is a better predictor of match quality than the price of the subscription where the verification question is concerned.

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