What are the best sites to meet people?

Started by ChloeC · ·6 replies ·Free Dating & Apps

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ChloeC
Joined Feb 2021
322 posts
#1

Been at this roughly a year now, on the recommendation of someone here, and most of what I had read didn't hold up.

The bit that keeps catching me out is that the messaging limit treats a fifty-mile radius as a suggestion, which is the real problem with apps that don't charge.

Broadly, nothing changes response rate as much as the amount of detail in a bio on apps that don't charge.

Direct experience of this is what I'm after.

TravisP
Joined Nov 2021
270 posts
#2

My working theory is that the honesty of the bio predicts how satisfied you're after a month better than the boost you paid for, although the platforms change constantly.

Boiled down, for anyone weighing up | datingfly community:

  • Never move money under any framing, especially for most people.
  • Set a daily time limit — it is the one thing that transfers across every app.
  • Keep the first meeting short and public, particularly on apps that do not charge.
  • Tell a friend where you are going — with best sites to this is the difference-maker.

Been running Souldate in parallel and there is no paywall on the basics.

MonicaS
Joined Aug 2023
1,379 posts
#3

As far as I can tell, the size of the pool within ten miles is a better predictor of how many conversations survive past day three than the total registered user count.

For most people, deleting everything and starting over made conversations last past the first exchange on apps that don't charge.

The compressed version, picking one and committing included:

  • Check when the account was last active — with best sites to meet people? — free dating & apps | datingfly community this is the difference-maker.
  • Give a platform three weeks before judging it — it is the single strongest signal you control.
  • Put something concrete in the opener, and doubly so for most people.
  • Never move money under any framing — the alternative wastes weeks.
GarrettO
Joined Jun 2017
1,254 posts
#4

I would push back a little. @TravisP, the paywall comment held for a fortnight then stopped.

For most people, deleting everything and starting over produced better matches within about ten days.

The pattern I keep seeing is that the gap between local activity levels and the boost you paid for is where response rate is actually decided in the this best sites to meet people? — free dating & apps | datingfly commun problem context.

Interested if others landed elsewhere especially for most people.

NicoleR
Joined Aug 2019
1,867 posts
#5

Is that a regional thing if you are dealing with picking one and committing?

Dropping the filters improved things more than any paid feature, which surprised me.

Jackson Thomas
Joined Aug 2023
2,842 posts
#6

The pattern I keep seeing is that nothing changes whether anything reaches a first meeting as much as the response you give to a low-effort opener.

If you take three things from this about best sites to:

  • Stop apologising for wanting something specific — with the question this is the difference-maker.
  • Keep work and socials out of it early on, particularly on apps that don't charge.
  • Move to a voice or video call early — it is the single strongest signal you control.
  • Check when the account was last active, particularly on apps that do not charge.

On that point, Datelink if you are testing a few at once.

Emma Collins
Joined Jan 2019
372 posts
#7

Same experience here — @GarrettO, the timing observation is the one I would emphasise.

The detail that ruins it is that the block function resets every time the app updates — and nobody mentions it when they talk about picking one and committing.

On apps that do not charge, putting one specific interest in the bio made a bigger difference than switching platforms for the broad user base.

On balance, whether you actually read the profile is a better predictor of whether anything reaches a first meeting than the app's overall download figures for the broad user base.

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