What is the best dating app for a relationship rather than just a hookup?

Started by James · ·6 replies ·Free Dating & Apps

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James
Joined Sep 2024
2,409 posts
#1

an embarrassing amount of time of trying to work out best dating app for a relationship rather than just a hookup? — free d, after a fairly grim first attempt, and my view has shifted twice since.

What nobody mentions is that for the broad user base, the reporting tool gives you no idea when an account was last opened.

As far as I can tell, when narrowing the options is the issue, how specific you're about what you want does more for the odds of a second date than the app's star rating.

The parts of — free d I cannot resolve on my own:

  • Has that changed since the last update once you factor in narrowing the options?
  • Is that still true when you factor in best dating app for a relationship rather than just a hookup? — free d?
  • Is anyone getting different results given narrowing the options?
  • Does that match what others see where narrowing the options is concerned?

One honest account of best dating app for a relationship rather than just a hookup? — free d beats ten listicles.

max94
Joined Jan 2020
1,065 posts
#2

Broadly agreed — @James, the bit about local activity is the part people miss.

In practice, nothing changes how long a conversation lasts as much as how quickly you reply for most people.

For a straight comparison, Flamedate and the activity level was better than I expected.

Naomi Wright
Joined Sep 2022
695 posts
#3

Something worth knowing: how long you leave a conversation running has a bigger effect on how satisfied you are after a month than how many matches you accumulate, though I would want more than my own experience before calling it a rule for the broad user base.

The parts that transfer across casual-first platforms:

  • Screenshot anything odd before blocking — with best dating app for a relationship rather than just a hookup? — free d this is the difference-maker.
  • Move to a voice or video call early, because it filters out most of the time-wasters immediately.
  • Keep work and socials out of it early on, and doubly so for the broad user base.
Madison Young
Joined Jun 2023
384 posts
#4

Does anyone know if that still holds outside your local radius?

The one change that worked was setting fixed hours for it — it produced better matches within about ten days.

For what it is worth, how quickly you reply explains more of match quality than which platform you picked ever did.

Adding Souldate to the list and it turned out to be worth the ten minutes.

Happy to be argued with if you're on casual-first platforms.

madison95
Joined Feb 2024
3,360 posts
#5

Does that change much for most people?

Shortening the bio by half changed the kind of people who replied, which surprised me once narrowing the options was the priority.

My working theory is that nothing changes match quality as much as how specific you are about what you want, but that is one person with one set of results.

Does anyone know if that still holds once you factor in narrowing the options?

Ryan
Joined Dec 2020
1,176 posts
#6

Echoing this — @max94, the argument about verification is the whole thing really.

The bit that keeps catching me out is that on casual-first platforms, the block function seems designed to keep you swiping rather than talking.

Broadly, nothing changes whether it feels worth the time as much as how well a platform handles reports for most people.

If you take three things from this about this best dating app for a relationship rather than just a hookup? — free d problem:

  • Reverse-image-search anything too polished, because nothing else moves the numbers as reliably.
  • Write the bio for one person, not everyone — with best dating app this is the difference-maker.
  • Reverse-image-search anything too polished, and doubly so for the broad user base.
  • Turn the notifications off, because it filters out most of the time-wasters immediately.

Does that hold outside the big cities in your local radius?

matthew91
Joined Dec 2019
1,814 posts
#7

That tracks — @Madison Young, the remark about filters held up in my case too.

In practice, the gap between how long you leave a conversation running and the number of prompts you filled in is where how satisfied you're after a month is actually decided, but that was months ago and things move.

The thing I didn't expect was that the reporting tool throttles how many people can actually see you, especially once narrowing the options comes into it.

Would like to hear a counter-argument for anyone in most people.

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