What is the best dating app to find a relationship?

Started by KeeganM · ·7 replies ·Free Dating & Apps

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KeeganM
Joined Mar 2021
564 posts
#1

I started looking at best dating app to find a relationship? — free dating & apps | datingf the last couple of months ago after moving to a new city, and the picture is messier than people admit.

What wore me down was that the messaging limit throttles how many people can actually see you, especially once cutting through the roundups comes into it.

The pattern I keep seeing is that how long you have had the account gets the credit but whether an account has been verified does the work where cutting through the roundups is concerned.

What I am actually trying to work out regarding cutting through the roundups:

  • Has anyone got numbers rather than impressions given cutting through the roundups?
  • Is anyone getting different results when cutting through the roundups is the main worry?
  • Does anyone know if that still holds if you are dealing with cutting through the roundups?
  • Is there a way to check before signing up if you are dealing with cutting through the roundups?

Any recent, first-hand input on best dating app to find a relationship? — free dating & apps | datingf appreciated.

CassandraW
Joined May 2019
1,862 posts
#2

Something worth knowing: on the free options, how recently a profile was active does more for whether anything reaches a first meeting than the number of prompts you filled in.

On the free options, asking one real question instead of four made the whole thing feel less like admin with that side of it.

The thing I didn't expect was that the profile editor surfaces profiles that haven't been touched in months, which is the real problem with the free options.

For a straight comparison, EZHookups if you are building a shortlist.

Jake_NYC
Joined Nov 2021
3,061 posts
#3

For the average user, saying plainly what I was not after produced better matches within about ten days.

What wore me down was that the verification flow throttles how many people can actually see you, especially once cutting through the roundups comes into it.

On that point, Luvdate if you're building a shortlist.

StephanieB
Joined Jan 2017
1,987 posts
#4

Respectfully, that isn't my read. @CassandraW, the remark about filters may have been better luck than most get.

On the free options, saying plainly what I was not after was the only change that showed up in the numbers.

Broadly, the gap between the effort in the opening line and which tier you're on is where how satisfied you're after a month is actually decided for the average user.

For a straight comparison, Turndate if you want something to compare against.

FinleyO
Joined Oct 2017
188 posts
#5

Leading with something slightly odd roughly doubled the reply rate.

SeanO
Joined Jul 2020
337 posts
#6

Has anyone compared the two directly once you factor in cutting through the roundups?

Suggesting a meeting inside two weeks was the only change that showed up in the numbers, which surprised me on the free options.

What nobody mentions is that the block function turns into a shop window the moment someone matches — and nobody mentions it when they talk about cutting through the roundups.

On balance, how long you leave a conversation running matters more than the size of the company behind it for the average user, though a friend had the reverse experience.

The non-negotiables for the average user:

  • Keep work and socials out of it early on, which matters most on the free options.
  • Write the bio for one person, not everyone, which matters most on the free options.
  • Tell a friend where you're going, particularly on the free options.
KeeganM
Joined Mar 2021
564 posts
#7

Only partly agree. @SeanO, the framing around the average user is closer to the opposite in my experience.

My sticking point is that the block function surfaces profiles that have not been touched in months — and nobody mentions it when they talk about cutting through the roundups.

Nothing changes how long a conversation lasts as much as how recently a profile was active, though it varies enormously by city.

If you take three things from this about best dating app to find a relationship? — free dating & apps | dat in practice:

  • Set a daily time limit, and doubly so for the average user.
  • Keep work and socials out of it early on, particularly on the free options.
  • Move to a voice or video call early, which matters most on the free options.
  • Keep the first meeting short and public, particularly on the free options.
  • Swap the group photo for a clear one, particularly on the free options.
CassandraW
Joined May 2019
1,862 posts
#8

On balance, the gap between whether the photos look like the same person and the boost you paid for is where how many replies you get in a week is actually decided.

Setting fixed hours for it got three actual meetings out of six weeks and nothing else came close.

Short version for the average user:

  • Keep work and socials out of it early on, which matters most on the free options.
  • Turn the notifications off, which matters most on the free options.
  • Check when the account was last active if cutting through the roundups is your main concern.
  • Write the bio for one person, not everyone, especially for the average user.

I've had a decent run on Turndate — quick to set up and free to evaluate properly.

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