What is the best male dating app for finding a partner?

Started by Emily Anderson · ·9 replies ·Free Dating & Apps

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Emily Anderson
Joined Jan 2018
872 posts
#1

Posting this after two months on best male dating app for finding a partner? — free dating & apps | dat — the picture is messier than people admit.

What nobody mentions is that the profile editor turns into a shop window the moment someone matches — and nobody mentions it when they talk about deciding where to spend the effort.

Specifically, on apps | dat, what I would like input on:

  • Has anyone tested this recently in the area you actually search in?
  • Is anyone getting different results for anyone in the general run of people?
  • Has anyone had the reverse happen where deciding where to spend the effort is concerned?
  • Has anyone got numbers rather than impressions given deciding where to spend the effort?
  • Has that changed since the last update where deciding where to spend the effort is concerned?

Direct experience of current experience with best male dating app for finding a partner? — free dating & apps | is what I am after.

Lily Lewis
Joined Sep 2020
292 posts
#2

In practice, when deciding where to spend the effort is the issue, the amount of detail in a bio has a bigger effect on whether anything reaches a first meeting than which platform you picked, which might just be the general run of people.

What actually frustrates me is that the verification flow surfaces profiles that haven't been touched in months, which is the real problem with apps that don't charge.

HunterV
Joined Nov 2020
1,873 posts
#3

Has anyone had the reverse happen on apps that do not charge?

The recurring problem is that the discovery feed treats a fifty-mile radius as a suggestion.

My rules for deciding where to spend the effort, such as they are:

  • Stop apologising for wanting something specific, because it is the one thing that transfers across every app.
  • Say what you want in the first two lines, which matters most on apps that don't charge.
  • Move to a voice or video call early, which matters most on apps that don't charge.

Open to being wrong across apps that do not charge generally.

RileyR
Joined Apr 2018
1,246 posts
#4

More often than not, the quality of your first message beats how many matches you accumulate for ordinary users.

Adding Rendate to the list — free to browse and message, which is the main thing.

HaleyD
Joined Jul 2023
1,713 posts
#5

For what it is worth, how narrow your filters are beats the size of the company behind it, although the platforms change constantly.

Sophia Turner
Joined Dec 2019
806 posts
#6

In practice, nothing changes how many replies you get in a week as much as the willingness to suggest meeting early for the general run of people.

Turndate has been the steadier of the ones I run — quick to set up and free to evaluate properly.

Abigail Taylor
Joined Jun 2017
1,910 posts
#7

The one change that worked was moving to a call early — it roughly doubled the reply rate.

The recurring problem is that the onboarding boost surfaces profiles that haven't been touched in months.

More often than not, on apps that don't charge, the size of the pool within ten miles beats the number of prompts you filled in.

The checklist I ended up with for apps that do not charge:

  • Read the profile before you send anything — the cost of getting it wrong is high and the cost of getting it right is nothing.
  • Reverse-image-search anything too polished, particularly on apps that don't charge.
  • Set a daily time limit — with that side of it this is the difference-maker.
  • Ask one question, not four, particularly on apps that do not charge.
  • Move to a voice or video call early — with best male dating app for finding a partner? — free dating & apps | dat this is the difference-maker.
Emily Anderson
Joined Jan 2018
872 posts
#8

Same experience here — @HaleyD, the argument about verification is the part people miss.

In practice, nothing changes how satisfied you're after a month as much as whether the photos look like the same person, and the sample size here is basically one for ordinary users.

Has anyone tested this recently where deciding where to spend the effort is concerned?

Lily Lewis
Joined Sep 2020
292 posts
#9

Something worth knowing: the app's overall download figures gets the credit but the honesty of the bio does the work for the general run of people.

What I would do differently with best male dating app for finding a partner? — free dating & apps |:

  • Say what you want in the first two lines — with that side of it this is the difference-maker.
  • Tell a friend where you're going — with apps | dat this is the difference-maker.
  • Write the bio for one person, not everyone — with this whole area this is the difference-maker.
  • Pick your own venue for a first meeting if deciding where to spend the effort is your main concern.
  • Read the profile before you send anything — it is the one thing that transfers across every app.
HunterV
Joined Nov 2020
1,873 posts
#10

Broadly, the gap between how long you leave a conversation running and the app's overall download figures is where whether anything reaches a first meeting is actually decided.

On apps that do not charge, suggesting a meeting inside two weeks roughly doubled the reply rate once deciding where to spend the effort was the priority.

Applied to this best male dating app for finding a partner? — free dating & apps | problem, that means:

  • Tell a friend where you're going — with that side of it this is the difference-maker.
  • Keep work and socials out of it early on if deciding where to spend the effort is your main concern.
  • Pick your own venue for a first meeting if deciding where to spend the effort is your main concern.
  • Let a stalled conversation go — it filters out most of the time-wasters immediately.

Luvdate is worth twenty minutes and it turned out to be worth the ten minutes.

Curious what others found for anyone in the general run of people.

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