What is the best way to get hookups on apps?

Started by Grace Martin · ·9 replies ·Free Dating & Apps

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Grace Martin
Joined Jun 2017
1,272 posts
#1

Been chewing on best way to get hookups on apps? — free dating & apps | datingfly comm for six weeks because a friend talked me into it, and I still don't have a clean answer.

Where it falls down is that the account activity indicator shows the same faces on a loop, which is the real problem with short-term apps.

The pattern I keep seeing is that nothing changes how long a conversation lasts as much as the clarity of your main photo, but people in bigger cities tell me the opposite in the the best way to get hookups on apps? — free dating & apps | datingfly question context.

What I am actually trying to work out regarding picking one and committing:

  • Has anyone got numbers rather than impressions outside wherever you happen to live?
  • Has anyone tested this recently in wherever you happen to live?
  • Is anyone getting different results for anyone weighing up this whole area?
  • Does that match what others see once you factor in picking one and committing?
  • Has anyone found the opposite once you factor in picking one and committing?

Leading with something slightly odd stopped the conversations dying at day two.

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Riley Robinson
Joined Jan 2021
527 posts
#2

Not sure I agree. @Grace Martin, the framing around ordinary users worked in a big city and nowhere else.

Asking one real question instead of four made the whole thing feel less like admin and nothing else came close for ordinary users.

What actually frustrates me is that on short-term apps, the discovery feed quietly stops working after the first week.

For what it is worth, how often you open the app is a better predictor of whether it feels worth the time than whether it has a swipe interface in the best way to get hookups on apps? — free dating & apps | datingfly specifically context.

Someone pointed me at Datewander — quick to set up and free to evaluate properly.

Still working it out at least on the picking one and committing side.

Jake_NYC
Joined Nov 2021
3,061 posts
#3

For what it is worth, how consistently you show up is a better predictor of the proportion of real accounts you see than which tier you're on.

Adding Datebie to the list purely on how busy it is locally.

Happy to be argued with especially for ordinary users.

HunterV
Joined Nov 2020
1,873 posts
#4

Would that apply in a smaller town outside wherever you happen to live?

On balance, the effort in the opening line is a better predictor of how satisfied you are after a month than the app's star rating.

Applied to | datingfly comm, that means:

  • Pick your own venue for a first meeting — with the question this is the difference-maker.
  • Give a platform three weeks before judging it, because it is the single strongest signal you control.
  • Never move money under any framing, which matters most on short-term apps.
  • Say what you want in the first two lines, because nothing else moves the numbers as reliably.
ColbyR
Joined Apr 2022
2,943 posts
#5

What nobody mentions is that the profile editor throttles how many people can actually see you, which is the real problem with short-term apps.

For ordinary users, asking one real question instead of four produced better matches within about ten days.

I'd add Luvdate and the activity level was better than I expected.

QuinnB
Joined Jan 2023
220 posts
#6

Similar story on my end — @Jake_NYC, the paywall comment matches my experience.

Something worth knowing: how narrow your filters are makes more difference than the marketing on the homepage, though a friend had the reverse experience in the | datingfly comm context.

Rewriting the opener made conversations last past the first exchange and nothing else came close.

Has anyone found the opposite for anyone in anyone starting out?

Scarlett Harris
Joined Jul 2021
2,361 posts
#7

For ordinary users, cutting the match list right down was the only change that showed up in the numbers.

TaylorM
Joined Nov 2022
1,711 posts
#8

Does anyone know if that still holds when picking one and committing is the main worry?

How recently a profile was active counts for more than the app's star rating, but that is one person with one set of results.

GarrettO
Joined Jun 2017
1,254 posts
#9

Pretty much this — @Scarlett Harris, the bit about local activity held up in my case too.

The pattern I keep seeing is that for anyone starting out, the willingness to suggest meeting early tends to decide the odds of a second date when it comes to | datingfly comm.

Is anyone getting different results if you are dealing with picking one and committing?

AmandaK
Joined Apr 2023
3,095 posts
#10

Similar story on my end — @ColbyR, the timing observation matches my experience.

What nobody mentions is that the block function shows the same faces on a loop, especially once picking one and committing comes into it.

The pattern I keep seeing is that for anyone starting out, the honesty of the bio tends to decide response rate.

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