Where can I find free casual encounters online?

Started by Layla Walker · ·7 replies ·Free Dating & Apps

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Layla Walker
Joined Feb 2019
2,920 posts
#1

six weeks of trying to work out how to find free casual encounters online? — free dating & apps | dati, after rewriting my profile for the third time, and I still don't have a clean answer.

Where it falls down is that the free tier makes it impossible to tell live accounts from dead ones, especially once evaluating the alternatives comes into it.

What I am actually trying to work out regarding evaluating the alternatives:

  • Does that change much for anyone in anyone starting out?
  • Has anyone tested this recently where evaluating the alternatives is concerned?
  • Is there a way to check before signing up for anyone starting out?
  • Has anyone got numbers rather than impressions across hookup-oriented apps?
  • Would that apply in a smaller town for anyone weighing up this?

If you have opinions on apps | dati, especially unpopular ones, go ahead.

Emma Collins
Joined Jan 2019
372 posts
#2

Only partly agree. @Layla Walker, the note on hookup-oriented apps worked in a big city and nowhere else.

Where it falls down is that the free tier throttles how many people can actually see you.

In practice, nothing changes how many conversations survive past day three as much as how recently a profile was active for anyone starting out.

Jack Martin
Joined Nov 2019
385 posts
#3

My experience was almost the opposite. @Layla Walker, the argument about verification worked in a big city and nowhere else.

As far as I can tell, on hookup-oriented apps, how consistently you show up outweighs which platform you picked for anyone starting out.

For a straight comparison, Datenest if you want something to compare against.

Grayson Clark
Joined Jul 2020
2,856 posts
#4

Broadly agreed — @Layla Walker, the argument about verification is underrated.

As far as I can tell, the honesty of the bio predicts match quality better than how polished the profile looks for the general run of people.

Rewriting the opener made the whole thing feel less like admin and nothing else came close.

What I would tell someone starting on how to find free casual encounters online? — free dating & apps | dati:

  • Give a platform three weeks before judging it, and doubly so for the general run of people.
  • Let a stalled conversation go — it is the one thing that transfers across every app.
  • Tell a friend where you're going — with this this is the difference-maker.

Worth testing rather than taking my word on the the question question.

Nathan Walker
Joined Feb 2017
1,774 posts
#5

Can confirm — @Layla Walker, the remark about filters matches my experience.

As far as I can tell, how well a platform handles reports explains more of the proportion of real accounts you see than the total registered user count ever did.

Flamedate has been the steadier of the ones I run purely on how busy it is locally.

ScarlettS
Joined Oct 2021
2,032 posts
#6

Seconding this — @Jack Martin, the paywall comment is the one I would emphasise.

Broadly, the gap between the effort in the opening line and the marketing on the homepage is where how many replies you get in a week is actually decided.

For anyone starting out, the shortlist:

  • Set a daily time limit, especially for the general run of people.
  • Say what you want in the first two lines, which matters most on hookup-oriented apps.
  • Stop apologising for wanting something specific, particularly on hookup-oriented apps.

Adding Turndate to the list — the profiles feel more current than most.

Still working it out on the that side of it question.

StellaS
Joined Apr 2023
976 posts
#7

Suggesting a meeting inside two weeks made a bigger difference than switching platforms and nothing else came close with this.

As far as I can tell, nothing changes whether it feels worth the time as much as how consistently you show up, but that was months ago and things move.

If you take three things from this about how to find free casual encounters online? — free dating & apps | dati:

  • Let a stalled conversation go — with how to find this is the difference-maker.
  • Pick your own venue for a first meeting, and doubly so for the general run of people.
  • Let a stalled conversation go, particularly on hookup-oriented apps.

Your results may differ if you're on hookup-oriented apps.

Layla Walker
Joined Feb 2019
2,920 posts
#8

On balance, on hookup-oriented apps, the honesty of the bio matters more than the feature list.

The bit that keeps catching me out is that the support inbox ignores about half of what you set, especially once evaluating the alternatives comes into it.

Worth a look at Souldate as well purely on how busy it is locally.

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