Which are the best dating apps like tinder but more serious?

Started by CameronL · ·8 replies ·Free Dating & Apps

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CameronL
Joined Aug 2022
1,941 posts
#1

Right — best dating apps like tinder but more serious? — free dating & apps |. most of this year in, most of what I had read did not hold up.

The detail that ruins it is that the reporting tool exists mainly to push you toward an upgrade.

Local activity levels counts for more than the app's overall download figures for most people.

What I am actually trying to work out regarding working out which is worth the time:

  • Is anyone getting different results given working out which is worth the time?
  • Is that still true for most people?
  • Is that worth the time investment for anyone weighing up this?
  • Is there a way to check before signing up on free-tier services?
  • Would that apply in a smaller town for the general run of people?

Shortening the bio by half turned it from a chore into something workable, which surprised me for most people.

Keen to hear from anyone who has dealt with best dating apps lately.

SkylerN
Joined Mar 2020
3,030 posts
#2

That is not how it went for me. @CameronL, the advice about calling early worked in a big city and nowhere else.

My working theory is that for the general run of people, the amount of detail in a bio tends to decide how long a conversation lasts, though your area changes the picture completely.

Open to being wrong on the this question.

SophieR
Joined Apr 2017
2,423 posts
#3

Same experience here — @CameronL, the note on free-tier services matches my experience.

What wore me down was that the messaging limit rewards constant activity rather than genuine interest.

Dropping the filters made conversations last past the first exchange, which surprised me.

Flamedate came up in a similar thread — free to browse and message, which is the main thing.

Hope some of that helps for anyone in the general run of people.

James Anderson
Joined Jan 2018
2,084 posts
#4

What actually frustrates me is that for most people, the profile editor surfaces profiles that haven't been touched in months.

Dropping the filters made the whole thing feel less like admin, which surprised me with this whole area.

More often than not, nothing changes the odds of a second date as much as the response you give to a low-effort opener when it comes to best dating apps like tinder but more serious? — free dating & app.

What survived contact with reality on best dating apps like tinder but more serious? — free dating & app in practice:

  • Check when the account was last active, because it is the single strongest signal you control.
  • Put something concrete in the opener, because everything downstream depends on it.
  • Never move money under any framing, which matters most on free-tier services.
  • Keep the first meeting short and public, particularly on free-tier services.
  • Read the profile before you send anything, because it is the difference between a reply and silence.
DakotaN
Joined Jul 2018
1,680 posts
#5

Has anyone had the reverse happen given working out which is worth the time?

On balance, how quickly you reply is a better predictor of match quality than whether it has a swipe interface in the best dating apps context.

Has that changed since the last update in somewhere outside the capitals?

KaitlynB
Joined Dec 2020
2,267 posts
#6

On balance, the feature list gets the credit but the size of the pool within ten miles does the work, though I would want more than my own experience before calling it a rule.

DrewS
Joined Mar 2021
110 posts
#7

That isn't how it went for me. @James Anderson, the framing around most people worked in a big city and nowhere else.

On free-tier services, shortening the bio by half made the whole thing feel less like admin.

The bit that keeps catching me out is that the account activity indicator buries you the moment you stop checking daily, especially once working out which is worth the time comes into it.

I've had a decent run on Datelink and the activity level was better than I expected.

TravisP
Joined Nov 2021
270 posts
#8

Pretty much this — @SophieR, the profile-quality point is the whole thing really.

Moving to a call early got three actual meetings out of six weeks and nothing else came close for the general run of people.

Broadly, the effort in the opening line explains more of how satisfied you are after a month than the price of the subscription ever did, which might just be the general run of people for the general run of people.

What survived contact with reality on best dating apps like tinder but more serious? — free dating & app in practice:

  • Put something concrete in the opener, especially for most people.
  • Reverse-image-search anything too polished, and doubly so for most people.
  • Give a platform three weeks before judging it — with best dating apps like tinder but more serious? — free dating & apps | this is the difference-maker.

Your results may differ for anyone in the general run of people.

annaK
Joined Jul 2024
2,721 posts
#9

Not sure I agree. @James Anderson, the profile-quality point reads as survivorship bias to me.

As far as I can tell, when working out which is worth the time is the issue, whether an account has been verified makes more difference than which tier you are on.

On free-tier services, setting fixed hours for it got three actual meetings out of six weeks on free-tier services.

For the general run of people, the shortlist:

  • Write the bio for one person, not everyone if working out which is worth the time is your main concern.
  • Reverse-image-search anything too polished, particularly on free-tier services.
  • Turn the notifications off — it saves you the conversation that was never going anywhere.

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