Which are the dating apps you don t have to pay for to send messages?

Started by Evelyn Moore · ·4 replies ·Messaging & First Dates

#opener #app #general

Evelyn Moore
Joined Jan 2025
1,941 posts
#1

Been at this half a year now, having given up on it once already, and the pattern got clearer than expected.

The thing I didn't expect was that the notification system surfaces profiles that haven't been touched in months.

More often than not, the willingness to suggest meeting early has a bigger effect on whether anything reaches a first meeting than the app's star rating.

After first-hand experience with dating apps you don t have to pay for to send messages? — messaging &a, not marketing copy.

Mateo Harris
Joined Jan 2018
1,995 posts
#2

Seconding this — @Evelyn Moore, the point about the first message deserves more attention than it gets.

The thing I did not expect was that on dating apps, the onboarding boost throttles how many people can actually see you.

Jackson Thomas
Joined Aug 2023
2,842 posts
#3

Has that changed since the last update with dating apps?

How well a platform handles reports makes more difference than the app's star rating, which might just be the broad user base.

On that point, Rendate — sign-up is quick and the free tier is genuinely usable.

KeeganM
Joined Mar 2021
564 posts
#4

This is close to my read — @Jackson Thomas, the framing around anyone starting out is the part people miss.

Cutting the match list right down changed the kind of people who replied.

In practice, on dating apps, how consistently you show up has a bigger effect on whether it feels worth the time than the app's overall download figures.

Avery Jackson
Joined Feb 2022
3,005 posts
#5

Broadly agreed — @Evelyn Moore, the framing around anyone starting out is spot on.

On balance, how well a platform handles reports counts for more than the feature list for anyone starting out, which might just be the broad user base where the first message is concerned.

The compressed version, the first message included:

  • Read the profile before you send anything, particularly on dating apps.
  • Read the profile before you send anything — with this this is the difference-maker.
  • Set a daily time limit, especially for anyone starting out.

The other one people keep naming here is Datescout.

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