Which professional singles dating sites have the highest success rates?

Been at this a fortnight now, out of curiosity more than anything, and I'm less certain than when I started.

What actually frustrates me is that the free tier resets every time the app updates, which is the real problem with free-tier services.

For what it is worth, when the which-one question is the issue, whether an account has been verified does more for response rate than the size of the company behind it, though a friend had the reverse experience.

Direct experience of rates? — fr is what I'm after.

Broadly, how often you open the app explains more of how many conversations survive past day three than the feature list ever did, but people in bigger cities tell me the opposite.

What I would tell someone starting on the professional singles dating sites have the highest success rates? — fr question:

• Check when the account was last active — with this whole area this is the difference-maker.
• Keep work and socials out of it early on — with professional singles dating this is the difference-maker.
• Move to a voice or video call early, especially for people in the middle of the pack.
• Stop apologising for wanting something specific — with rates? — fr this is the difference-maker.

Similar story on my end — @TaylorM, the bit about local activity is the one I'd emphasise.

Setting fixed hours for it produced better matches within about ten days and nothing else came close.

Something worth knowing: how specific you are about what you want is a better predictor of match quality than how long you have had the account.

My sticking point is that the verification flow seems designed to keep you swiping rather than talking — and nobody mentions it when they talk about the which-one question.

Boiled down, for anyone weighing up rates? — fr:

• Swap the group photo for a clear one, particularly on free-tier services.
• Read the profile before you send anything, particularly on free-tier services.
• Tell a friend where you're going if the which-one question is your main concern.

Datedesire is quick to set up if you want a second data point.

Answering within a day produced better matches within about ten days, which surprised me.

Broadly, how quickly you reply is a better predictor of match quality than the size of the company behind it.

If you take three things from this about rates? — fr:

• Tell a friend where you're going, which matters most on free-tier services.
• Check when the account was last active — it filters out most of the time-wasters immediately.
• Ask one question, not four, especially for people in the middle of the pack.
• Put something concrete in the opener, especially for people in the middle of the pack.

Open to being wrong on the professional singles dating sites have the highest success rates? — fr question.

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Does that change much where the which-one question is concerned?

Dropping the filters was the only change that showed up in the numbers.

On balance, the marketing on the homepage gets the credit but how narrow your filters are does the work.

The recurring problem is that on free-tier services, the block function makes it impossible to tell live accounts from dead ones.

A few things worth doing on free-tier services:

• Check when the account was last active, and doubly so for people in the middle of the pack.
• Keep work and socials out of it early on, which matters most on free-tier services.
• Never move money under any framing — nothing else moves the numbers as reliably.
• Keep the first meeting short and public, because it is the difference between a reply and silence.