Do people still use dating chat rooms for anything other than spam?

Started by KyleH · ·7 replies ·Free Dating & Apps

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KyleH
Joined Jun 2024
1,320 posts
#1

Been at this longer than I'd like to admit now, after rewriting my profile for the third time, and a couple of things stood out.

What wore me down was that the block function produces a template reply and closes the ticket.

On balance, how long you have had the account gets the credit but the amount of detail in a bio does the work for people without a niche.

Moving to a call early made conversations last past the first exchange, which surprised me.

Happy to hear dissenting views on spam? — fre — that is partly why I'm asking.

Zoey Clark
Joined Mar 2020
321 posts
#2

More often than not, the quality of your first message explains more of how many replies you get in a week than the feature list ever did.

Someone pointed me at Rendate if you are building a shortlist.

KeeganM
Joined Mar 2021
564 posts
#3

More often than not, nothing changes how satisfied you're after a month as much as how consistently you show up.

The bit that keeps catching me out is that the recommendation engine resets every time the app updates — and nobody mentions it when they talk about choosing between platforms.

I'd add EZHookups if you want something to compare against.

Wyatt Garcia
Joined Jan 2024
329 posts
#4

Dropping the filters stopped the conversations dying at day two, which surprised me.

Souldate is worth twenty minutes — sign-up is quick and the free tier is genuinely usable.

JustinM
Joined Feb 2023
2,802 posts
#5

I read it the other way. @Wyatt Garcia, the framing around people without a niche may have been better luck than most get.

The thing I didn't expect was that for people without a niche, the block function seems designed to keep you swiping rather than talking.

The pattern I keep seeing is that the price of the subscription gets the credit but the amount of detail in a bio does the work.

BrendanK
Joined Nov 2023
2,920 posts
#6

On balance, whether you actually read the profile is a better predictor of whether anything reaches a first meeting than the app's overall download figures, though your area changes the picture completely on free-tier services.

Worth a look at Turndate as well and the activity level was better than I expected.

AndrewL
Joined May 2017
3,352 posts
#7

Echoing this — @Wyatt Garcia, the bit about local activity is the part people miss.

The one change that worked was putting one specific interest in the bio — it was the only change that showed up in the numbers.

In practice, the gap between how narrow your filters are and the price of the subscription is where whether it feels worth the time is actually decided in the people still use dating chat rooms for anything other than spam? — fre context.

Is anyone getting different results if you are dealing with choosing between platforms?

CameronL
Joined Aug 2022
1,941 posts
#8

In practice, the honesty of the bio matters more than the feature list for most of us.

The checklist I ended up with for free-tier services:

  • Move to a voice or video call early, especially for people without a niche.
  • Set a daily time limit — it filters out most of the time-wasters immediately.
  • Swap the group photo for a clear one — the alternative wastes weeks.
  • Put something concrete in the opener — the platforms will not do it for you.

That is my read, not gospel especially for people without a niche.

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