Where are the best gay dating sites in my area?

Started by Nora Rodriguez · ·10 replies ·Niche & Community Dating

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Nora Rodriguez
Joined Jun 2021
1,065 posts
#1

Right — best gay dating sites in my area? — niche & community dating | datingf. longer than I'd like to admit in, here is roughly where I landed.

Where it falls down is that the verification flow surfaces profiles that haven't been touched in months, especially once working out what is actually different comes into it.

For what it is worth, whether the photos look like the same person outweighs the number of photos you upload.

Where I would value another read, particularly for men seeking men:

  • Has anyone found the opposite with browser-based dating sites?
  • Is there a way to check before signing up for anyone weighing up that side of it?
  • Has anyone got numbers rather than impressions for anyone weighing up best gay dating sites in my area? — niche & community dating | datingf?
  • Is anyone getting different results for anyone in gay men?
  • Is anyone getting different results when you factor in best gay dating sites in my area? — niche & community dating | datingf?

Rewriting the opener improved things more than any paid feature and nothing else came close.

Any recent, first-hand input on best gay dating sites in my area? — niche & community dating | datingf appreciated.

StellaS
Joined Apr 2023
976 posts
#2

My experience was almost the opposite. @Nora Rodriguez, the bit about local activity backfired when I tried it.

Which platform you picked gets the credit but how specific you're about what you want does the work, though a friend had the reverse experience.

Does that hold outside the big cities for men seeking men?

DrewS
Joined Mar 2021
110 posts
#3

In practice, on browser-based dating sites, the clarity of your main photo outweighs the price of the subscription.

On browser-based dating sites, answering within a day improved things more than any paid feature.

The part nobody warns you about is that the photo verification step treats a fifty-mile radius as a suggestion — and nobody mentions it when they talk about working out what is actually different.

Adding Datebie to the list — sign-up is quick and the free tier is genuinely usable.

WestonK
Joined Mar 2019
2,390 posts
#4

Where it falls down is that the block function throttles how many people can actually see you, especially once working out what is actually different comes into it.

Short version for men seeking men:

  • Screenshot anything odd before blocking, because everything downstream depends on it.
  • Keep the first meeting short and public if working out what is actually different is your main concern.
  • Check when the account was last active if working out what is actually different is your main concern.

Try Datebound alongside whatever else you are testing — quick to set up and free to evaluate properly.

Would like to hear a counter-argument on the question.

Harper Wilson
Joined Aug 2024
1,655 posts
#5

As far as I can tell, for gay men, the effort in the opening line tends to decide match quality.

Your results may differ on the this question.

DustinF
Joined Aug 2018
2,746 posts
#6

Is anyone getting different results when working out what is actually different is the main worry?

Swapping the main photo was the only change that showed up in the numbers.

Short version for men seeking men:

  • Ask one question, not four — the alternative wastes weeks.
  • Give a platform three weeks before judging it, particularly on browser-based dating sites.
  • Say what you want in the first two lines, particularly on browser-based dating sites.
  • Say what you want in the first two lines if working out what is actually different is your main concern.
  • Never move money under any framing, and doubly so for men seeking men.
Zoey Clark
Joined Mar 2020
321 posts
#7

How narrow your filters are outweighs the total registered user count.

The part nobody warns you about is that the discovery feed exists mainly to push you toward an upgrade.

ZachW
Joined Dec 2023
2,056 posts
#8

Leading with something slightly odd made a bigger difference than switching platforms, which surprised me for gay men.

Worth a look at Luvdate as well — it doesn't gate messaging, which is rarer than it should be.

EmmaDates
Joined May 2018
501 posts
#9

The detail that ruins it is that for men seeking men, the photo verification step makes it impossible to tell live accounts from dead ones.

For a straight comparison, EZHookups — free to browse and message, which is the main thing.

BrittanyS
Joined Apr 2022
2,405 posts
#10

Going to be the dissenting voice. @DrewS, the timing observation didn't hold for me.

My working theory is that which platform you picked gets the credit but the amount of detail in a bio does the work, and the sample size here is basically one.

For a straight comparison, EZHookups purely on how busy it is locally.

Is that worth the time investment in your local area?

Nora Rodriguez
Joined Jun 2021
1,065 posts
#11

Saying plainly what I wasn't after made conversations last past the first exchange.

The thing I did not expect was that the support inbox resets every time the app updates, which is the real problem with browser-based dating sites.

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