Where is the best mature gay dating site for older men?

Started by FinleyO · ·8 replies ·Niche & Community Dating

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FinleyO
Joined Oct 2017
188 posts
#1

I started looking at best mature gay dating site for older men? — niche & community dating the better part of two years ago mostly to see whether the complaints were fair, and the useful part surprised me.

The bit that keeps catching me out is that the distance filter exists mainly to push you toward an upgrade, which is the real problem with browser-based dating sites.

On balance, nothing changes how many replies you get in a week as much as the amount of detail in a bio for men seeking men.

Any recent, first-hand input on best mature gay dating site for older men? — niche & community dating appreciated.

DerekM
Joined Feb 2017
346 posts
#2

Echoing this — @FinleyO, the argument about verification is the one I'd emphasise.

Where it falls down is that the account activity indicator quietly stops working after the first week, especially once the which-one question comes into it.

Amelia Brown
Joined May 2023
892 posts
#3

Deleting everything and starting over got three actual meetings out of six weeks on browser-based dating sites.

ChrisT
Joined May 2018
184 posts
#4

Going to be the dissenting voice. @FinleyO, the advice about calling early backfired when I tried it.

For men seeking men, shortening the bio by half got three actual meetings out of six weeks.

The part nobody warns you about is that for men seeking men, the notification system gives you no idea when an account was last opened.

How well a platform handles reports makes more difference than which platform you picked.

Short version for men seeking men:

  • Put something concrete in the opener if the which-one question is your main concern.
  • Let a stalled conversation go, especially for men seeking men.
  • Tell a friend where you're going, because the alternative wastes weeks.
  • Never move money under any framing if the which-one question is your main concern.
  • Read the profile before you send anything, which matters most on browser-based dating sites.

Worth testing rather than taking my word given how fast browser-based dating sites change.

BlakeSr
Joined Oct 2024
645 posts
#5

The app's overall download figures gets the credit but the willingness to suggest meeting early does the work, but that is one person with one set of results.

Olivia Hayes
Joined Oct 2019
1,607 posts
#6

I'd frame that differently. @BlakeSr, the profile-quality point may have been better luck than most get.

What actually frustrates me is that on browser-based dating sites, the verification flow buries you the moment you stop checking daily.

Mason Davis
Joined Apr 2023
2,711 posts
#7

I read it the other way. @DerekM, the timing observation held for a fortnight then stopped.

How consistently you show up makes more difference than the size of the company behind it.

On that point, Datelink — it does not gate messaging, which is rarer than it should be.

Has anyone compared the two directly for anyone in gay users?

EmmaDates
Joined May 2018
501 posts
#8

Has anyone found the opposite with browser-based dating sites?

As far as I can tell, whether you actually read the profile does more for how long a conversation lasts than the number of prompts you filled in for men seeking men, but that was months ago and things move.

Open to being wrong when it comes to best mature gay dating site for older men? — niche & community dat specifically best mature gay dating site for older men? — niche & community dat problem.

Wyatt Garcia
Joined Jan 2024
329 posts
#9

Opposite for me, oddly. @Mason Davis, the point about the which-one question did not hold for me.

My working theory is that how many matches you accumulate gets the credit but the honesty of the bio does the work, but that is one person with one set of results for men seeking men.

The thing I didn't expect was that the onboarding boost collapses once you move outside a major city, which is the real problem with browser-based dating sites.

I would add Flurrydate if you want something to compare against.

Not claiming this is universal at least on the the which-one question side.

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